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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote ThoughtCouture Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 14 2014 at 6:20pm

of course having children is a choice...

but lets not kid ourselves.  doing so results in sacrifices and work that needs to happen.   
 
as with anything else even things done for ones self (as star put it...doing ones own hair or whatever still requires effort to get it done)
 
in my mind, any service i'd pay for either because i can't or don't want to do it, is work for someone else.  and i'd consider it work if i had to do it myself ESPECIALLY if i can and yet prefer to pay someone else to do it.
 
the bottom line for me is it's just sad to me that this important task is looked at as like...whatever...you ain't really doing shyt...or worse...you using your children as an excuse to not do shyt.  excuse me.  that's some bs.
 


Edited by ThoughtCouture - Jun 14 2014 at 6:25pm
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Yeah adoption can certainly be selfish.

I think the unselfish part is taking in a child who is already here...but I suppose that's only unselfish if you could have your own children. Because if it's the only way to get what you want, then it is selfish.


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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote carolina cutie Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 14 2014 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

perhaps work and it's association with money
is confusing the issue

Clearer when work = effort 
Thread closed?




Nah, course not.LOL
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote ThoughtCouture Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 14 2014 at 6:22pm
Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

perhaps work and it's association with money
is confusing the issue

Clearer when work = effort 



 
it is.  it's clear that unpaid effort/work doesn't seem to be considered work...
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i so agree with you maysay. 

as far as i know, i don't have any fertility issues and i don't have a problem getting a man lol so my choice to adopt (eventually) rather than have children of my own is partly philanthropic, partly to make myself feel like a good upstanding citizen giving back to the world (if i'm being honest) which could be considered selfish. 

eta: the ego part could be considered selfish


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i guess when we say stuff like "i'm working on my resume" that's considered effort so it's considered work? LOL
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oh, and i absolutely adore GOOD sahms. i would never consider what they do irrelevant. i just don't consider it work. 
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yeah the ego part does make it selfish

which isn't a bad thing
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote ThoughtCouture Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 14 2014 at 6:37pm
so what do you think about the moms who say they would rather go outside to work than be at home with children.  is it safe to say they probably consider staying at home with the children work?

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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

so what do you think about the moms who say they would rather go outside to work than be at home with children.  is it safe to say they probably consider staying at home with the children work?


I used to work with a woman who would kiss her desk on Monday mornings and say I'm so happy to be at the office to get a break lol. I think she thought it was work  .

it/staying at home w/ children


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