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I rather stay home without the kids part. Stay at home moms have it rough. You gotta listen to their whining and crying all damn day....I couldn't do it lol
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i just find it so fascinating how people define having children. it seems like people actually think they're picking kids out of the cabbage patch or plucking them out of heaven or whatever and saving their lives (before they're even here.) 

so strange. if you chose to have them, they are your responsibilty
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

i just find it so fascinating how people define having children. it seems like people actually think they're picking kids out of the cabbage patch or plucking them out of heaven or whatever and saving their lives (before they're even here.) 

so strange. if you chose to have them, they are your responsibilty


Yeah babies don't just show up out of the blue...they come from a choice.

This reminds of a recent thread on another forum asking is their any unselfish reason for becoming a parent.

The only two I can think of is adoption/fostering and having your rapist's child.


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i totally agree. 

except i consider fostering service WORK, while i view adoption as a choice much like having one's own child. 


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perhaps work and it's association with money
is confusing the issue

Clearer when work = effort 



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of course having children is a choice...

but lets not kid ourselves.  doing so results in sacrifices and work that needs to happen.   
 
as with anything else even things done for ones self (as star put it...doing ones own hair or whatever still requires effort to get it done)
 
in my mind, any service i'd pay for either because i can't or don't want to do it, is work for someone else.  and i'd consider it work if i had to do it myself ESPECIALLY if i can and yet prefer to pay someone else to do it.
 
the bottom line for me is it's just sad to me that this important task is looked at as like...whatever...you ain't really doing shyt...or worse...you using your children as an excuse to not do shyt.  excuse me.  that's some bs.
 


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Yeah adoption can certainly be selfish.

I think the unselfish part is taking in a child who is already here...but I suppose that's only unselfish if you could have your own children. Because if it's the only way to get what you want, then it is selfish.


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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

perhaps work and it's association with money
is confusing the issue

Clearer when work = effort 
Thread closed?




Nah, course not.LOL
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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

perhaps work and it's association with money
is confusing the issue

Clearer when work = effort 



 
it is.  it's clear that unpaid effort/work doesn't seem to be considered work...
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i so agree with you maysay. 

as far as i know, i don't have any fertility issues and i don't have a problem getting a man lol so my choice to adopt (eventually) rather than have children of my own is partly philanthropic, partly to make myself feel like a good upstanding citizen giving back to the world (if i'm being honest) which could be considered selfish. 

eta: the ego part could be considered selfish


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