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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

it isn't easy to care for babies/young children, it's time consuming, can be all consuming, and it's often thankless


The only person who should be offering thanks is the child's other parent.
 
i don't agree...society is a better when children have healthy home lives.
 
isn't this something we talk about all the time?  the fact that part of the solution to our problems (i'm talking black people here) starts at home?


I agree that society is better off when children are raised well, obviously.

But I don't believe that society should be thanking a parent for taking care of their parenting responsibilities. That's just part of the package of being a parent. The only person who might owe you thanks is the other parent.

I mean in the sense of "thanks for keeping your kid clean, fed, and sending them to school"...if that makes sense.
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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

volunteering is typically void of self interest...


True but what I meant is their not the ones benefiting from it. A volunteer is actually helping someone with no relation to them. You can't volunteer to tutor your own kids because that's your responsibility. But if you tutor a stranger's kids for free or charge, that's work because you're not getting the benefit.
 
this not true.  i have volunteered my skills for church and for other organizations in which i know the people.  you do not have to volunteer for a stranger in order for it to be considered work...gtfohLOL

Depends on what you were doing but your church is not your friends or family.
 
listen lady...i have watched the neighbors kids for free and i don't even kick it at all with the mom or dad.  not even a lil...that was work and i don't give a rats azz what you say...LOL
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


lol

trying to better understand your perspective

you made the distinction between helping non relatives versus relatives and what motivates you to do things for them

I assumed we help people for the same reasons so watching a younger relative is the same thing as watching a neighbor's kids for free or for a fee

both are "work"

It is because you care about them both.

But you wouldn't regularly babysit someone's kid that you don't know for free.
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

volunteering is typically void of self interest...


True but what I meant is their not the ones benefiting from it. A volunteer is actually helping someone with no relation to them. You can't volunteer to tutor your own kids because that's your responsibility. But if you tutor a stranger's kids for free or charge, that's work because you're not getting the benefit.
 
this not true.  i have volunteered my skills for church and for other organizations in which i know the people.  you do not have to volunteer for a stranger in order for it to be considered work...gtfohLOL

Depends on what you were doing but your church is not your friends or family.
 
listen lady...i have watched the neighbors kids for free and i don't even kick it at all with the mom or dad.  not even a lil...that was work and i don't give a rats azz what you say...LOL

Yeah we established that a couple pages back...fine by me...
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

it isn't easy to care for babies/young children, it's time consuming, can be all consuming, and it's often thankless


The only person who should be offering thanks is the child's other parent.
 
i don't agree...society is a better when children have healthy home lives.
 
isn't this something we talk about all the time?  the fact that part of the solution to our problems (i'm talking black people here) starts at home?


I agree that society is better off when children are raised well, obviously.

But I don't believe that society should be thanking a parent for taking care of their parenting responsibilities. That's just part of the package of being a parent. The only person who might owe you thanks is the other parent.

I mean in the sense of "thanks for keeping your kid clean, fed, and sending them to school"...if that makes sense.
 
well...i thank moms/dads who i feel are doing a great job in real life all the time.  and i'd like to get more involved helping those who appear to be struggling...but that's another thread for another day...i suppose... 
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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


lol

trying to better understand your perspective

you made the distinction between helping non relatives versus relatives and what motivates you to do things for them

I assumed we help people for the same reasons so watching a younger relative is the same thing as watching a neighbor's kids for free or for a fee

both are "work"

It is because you care about them both.

But you wouldn't regularly babysit someone's kid that you don't know for free.
 
well again we are back to if the sahm of 1 who is watching 2 children and being paid...she putting forth the same amount of effort as a sahm of 3.  one is working in your mind and the other isn't...ok.


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TC I get you. I think it's important to show appreciation to other people in our lives. Definitely.

I just think the idea of "thanks so much for taking care of your basic responsibilities" isn't necessary. Same as when dudes tell you they've never been to jail, have a job, and no kids and expect a cookie for it.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

TC I get you. I think it's important to show appreciation to other people in our lives. Definitely.

I just think the idea of "thanks so much for taking care of your basic responsibilities" isn't necessary. Same as when dudes tell you they've never been to jail, have a job, and no kids and expect a cookie for it.
 
DeadLOL  when you put it that way....LOL
 
 
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not saying sahm/d is cookie worthy....i just think it is ridic for anyone to be questioning what a sahm/d does all day...i mean unless you know that particular sahm/d is unfit....it's rude as f*ck...

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