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it isn't easy to care for babies/young children, it's time consuming, can be all consuming, and it's often thankless

There's value to being 100% responsible for the beliefs, expectations, emotions, lessons etc your children develop before they go to school

If you've ever kept babies/young children by yourself for a month, you'll understand it's work
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

volunteering is typically void of self interest...


True but what I meant is their not the ones benefiting from it. A volunteer is actually helping someone with no relation to them. You can't volunteer to tutor your own kids because that's your responsibility. But if you tutor a stranger's kids for free or charge, that's work because you're not getting the benefit.
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you don't help friends and neighbors for the same reason you help your family?

You do and that's what I'm saying. But this question is worded weird so I'm not sure if I'm answering it.
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


you don't help friends and neighbors for the same reason you help your family?
 
sometimes.  i have neighbors i would watch their kids for free but i wouldn't go to dinner with them...lol
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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

it isn't easy to care for babies/young children, it's time consuming, can be all consuming, and it's often thankless


The only person who should be offering thanks is the child's other parent.
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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

volunteering is typically void of self interest...


True but what I meant is their not the ones benefiting from it. A volunteer is actually helping someone with no relation to them. You can't volunteer to tutor your own kids because that's your responsibility. But if you tutor a stranger's kids for free or charge, that's work because you're not getting the benefit.
 
this not true.  i have volunteered my skills for church and for other organizations in which i know the people.  you do not have to volunteer for a stranger in order for it to be considered work...gtfohLOL
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

who said it would have to be a niece or nephew...could be the neighbors kid or friends kid...wth

If you do it for a friend or a neighbor then you're doing it because you know them and want to help or because you want to be able to ask for a favor when you need it. If you or someone you know directly are the ones benefittng then how is it work? In that case I could detangle my hair and say I was working all day. 
 
lol...ok...this is funny as hell now...

K then...it seems like you're saying anything that requires effort is work. If I make myself a sandwich I am working. When I wash my own ass I am working. When I'm sewing in my weave I am working. When I am exercising I am working...?
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

it isn't easy to care for babies/young children, it's time consuming, can be all consuming, and it's often thankless


The only person who should be offering thanks is the child's other parent.
 
i don't agree...society is a better when children have healthy home lives.
 
isn't this something we talk about all the time?  the fact that part of the solution to our problems (i'm talking black people here) starts at home?
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:



both are "work"
 
of course they are...LOL
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

volunteering is typically void of self interest...


True but what I meant is their not the ones benefiting from it. A volunteer is actually helping someone with no relation to them. You can't volunteer to tutor your own kids because that's your responsibility. But if you tutor a stranger's kids for free or charge, that's work because you're not getting the benefit.
 
this not true.  i have volunteered my skills for church and for other organizations in which i know the people.  you do not have to volunteer for a stranger in order for it to be considered work...gtfohLOL

Depends on what you were doing but your church is not your friends or family.

Like I said, the difference is self interest. Doing something for friend or family member for free isn't legit work for the same reason a corporation doesn't allow nepotism. Self interest.


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