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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

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I don't have a problem with people staying home if their husband can provide that opportunity but don't pretend you're doing it for the kids.
 
you think most sahm's are pretending to do it for the kids?

I can't say because I don't know most stay at home moms but I don't think lying about it is necessary especially if you're not homeschooling. You don't need to stay at home to take care of your kids. Most working moms do all that and more.
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More stay at home dads now anyways...
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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I don't have a problem with people staying home if their husband can provide that opportunity but don't pretend you're doing it for the kids.
 
you think most sahm's are pretending to do it for the kids?

I can't say because I don't know most stay at home moms but I don't think lying about it is necessary especially if you're not homeschooling. You don't need to stay at home to take care of your kids. Most working moms do all that and more.
 
interesting.  i don't really see what there is to lie about.  someone being home with their  kids before they go to grade school and then right after they get out of grade school is work.
 
work that most seem to think is meh...which is very odd imo...especially considering people actually have a "job" to do just that...look after children.  what other working moms do (by choice or by necessity) is irrelevant, imo.


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Originally posted by Bored w/Out Me? Bored w/Out Me? wrote:

More stay at home dads now anyways...

Yeah I just read an article abt that. With the loss of male dominated jobs men are either transitioning to wonrn o riented fields like nursing or just staying home.
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I know one SAHM that has a nanny and does nothing really, and I know one SAHM who has a five year old girl spelling and writing and doing math at second grade level. 

I'm a SAHM and full time student who wants to go to work but I'm accustomed to getting paid a lot more than what's out there right now- so I need to step my education/skill set up. I don't need to work right now, and I don't want to work just to pay for childcare. I feel like my child deserves more than some basic daycare facility - if I am able to provide more. 

I've been a single, working mom too and it was hard as hell but it was necessary for that period of time in my life. I was in Dallas where the money was good, childcare was affordable and rent was cheap. In California, money is exactly the same (for my skill set), childcare is higher and rent is three times as much as Dallas. 
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I don't have a problem with people staying home if their husband can provide that opportunity but don't pretend you're doing it for the kids.
 
you think most sahm's are pretending to do it for the kids?

I can't say because I don't know most stay at home moms but I don't think lying about it is necessary especially if you're not homeschooling. You don't need to stay at home to take care of your kids. Most working moms do all that and more.
 
interesting.  i don't really see what there is to lie about.  someone being home with their  kids before they go to grade school and then right after they get out of grade school is work.
 
work that most seem to think is meh...which is very odd imo...especially considering people actually have a "job" to do just that...look after children.  what other working moms do (by choice or by necessity) is irrelevant, imo.

Staying at home is just that, staying at home. It's not hard to stay at home and do anything. If you're gonna stay at home with the kids and not have a job that's fine but don't expect people to think it's hard work when others are making money and still taking care of their kids. Staying at home is a luxury. Caring for your own kids and home does not count as work.
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Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I don't have a problem with people staying home if their husband can provide that opportunity but don't pretend you're doing it for the kids.
 
you think most sahm's are pretending to do it for the kids?

I can't say because I don't know most stay at home moms but I don't think lying about it is necessary especially if you're not homeschooling. You don't need to stay at home to take care of your kids. Most working moms do all that and more.

Some working moms do that and a lot more. Some don't do sht. 

Also, homeschooling is necessary always. A child can never learn too much. A SAHM should most definitely be homeschooling even when kids are in school away from home because our education system sucks.  But you're right, working moms do all that and more, sometimes. 

I don't think it's ever okay to criticize someone's parenting because everyone has their own set of strengths and weaknesses. 
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If stay at home moms are better parents than working moms then you might as well say working men are not good fathers because they're supposed to be at home every minute of the day to look into their kids face and prepare home cooked meals. It's a two way street.
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Originally posted by JaceDummy JaceDummy wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

I don't have a problem with people staying home if their husband can provide that opportunity but don't pretend you're doing it for the kids.
 
you think most sahm's are pretending to do it for the kids?

I can't say because I don't know most stay at home moms but I don't think lying about it is necessary especially if you're not homeschooling. You don't need to stay at home to take care of your kids. Most working moms do all that and more.

Some working moms do that and a lot more. Some don't do sht. 

Also, homeschooling is necessary always. A child can never learn too much. A SAHM should most definitely be homeschooling even when kids are in school away from home because our education system sucks.  But you're right, working moms do all that and more, sometimes. 

I don't think it's ever okay to criticize someone's parenting because everyone has their own set of strengths and weaknesses. 

I agree and like I said, nothing's wrong with not working if that's what you want and what your hubby can afford it but it isn't about the kids. It's either about the woman not wanting to work or about the power play between husband and wife imo (aka the husband not wanting the wife to work).


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