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    Posted: Apr 06 2014 at 5:29am
I ripped this from another website I frequent.  What would you do if you were in this situation?  Honestly, I don't know what I'd do.  If he didn't bring it up, I'd just have to K.I.M., especially if I wasn't at home all the time.  On the other hand, it might be killing her that she knows about it and she wants to tell her dad she knows.

Quote Have you ever been in a situation that was so surreal you thought you were dreaming?  Yesterday, I went into the "everything" room in my house.  It's where me and my parents just sort of keep random things we don't want in our own rooms.  My father spends the most time there.  It's where he keeps his computer.  

Anyway, I went in there to do some spring cleaning of my things and I noticed something different.  In a clear draw, I noticed something pink.  I opened it and it was a pair of breast inserts for women who have had breasts removed from cancer.  There was all sorts of lingerie that definitely wasn't mine...but it wasn't my mom's either.  

There were two duffle bags sitting on the floor that I hadn't noticed before (I haven't been in that room for about a year, as I work a couple of states over and don't have the time to visit--my mother never goes into this room, she does not like clutter and that's what this room is full of).  I opened one up and it was full of wigs, dresses and high heel shoes and boots.  I realized these things belonged to my father.  

I normally don't care what people do with their lives, but this hit too close to home.  I told my mother, but she wasn't phased.  She laughed.  When my mother explained their marriage hasn't been great for almost 15 years and said she had always known he was a sexual deviant (into very graphic pornography), I became more upset at the situation.  I haven't been able to talk to my father since.  I broke down crying today over it.  Am I overreacting?  I just want to be done with him.
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I wouldn't know what to do.  Knowing me, I would try to stay away as much as possible so I wouldn't have to be around my dad knowing his secret.  

Nevermind that.  I would bring it up to him lightly by asking him whose stuff that is in the room and see what he says.  His answer would determine what I would do, but I definitely wouldn't tell my mom.

Edited because I didn't read the part where she tells her mom and she isn't phased by it.  In that case, I would leave it alone.


Edited by beautiful_hair - Apr 06 2014 at 7:34am
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TBH, I'd think it was awesome that my daddy is a drag queen.
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Wow... I don't know what I would do.
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yeah id stay out of it.  she already found out her mom wasnt phased and its her life and marriage.  she needs to just move on and place that knowledge back in the top shelf of the closet in her mind and lock the door.
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Well, the daughter says she hasn't been in that room in a year because she works 2 states over .. something like that?

This tells me she is an adult and lives on her own or with a husband etc .. so she is grown.

As an adult we all know our parents aren't perfect and have their own lives so I think this grown woman can either ask her father about it and risk an upset or she can ignore it like her mother has .. and get on with her own life.

Clearly her father is a crossdresser and has probably been hiding it all his life so he's not going to give it up .. because it's something he 'needs'. I think she should try to see his side and how he must have felt to have lived with this big secret all his life.

Maybe she can go online and research crossdressers to learn more about them and then maybe approach him .... but all that crying is making it all about 'her'. Maybe she was an only child that was spoiled and pampered but her 'being done with him' is an overreaction for goodness sakes! He is not a murderered or achild rapist. DUH! What ... she will cut her father COMPPLETELY out of her life over some makeup and heels? Silly. He is still her father.

Anyway, if I were her .. I would just pretend I don't know his secret and move on. Geesh, let her dad live his life the way he wants.

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she needs to get over herself and stop snitching
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hmmm...i'd like to think my father was still my father.  mom knows about it and has been knowing for what?  the last 15 years?  and apparently she married the man knowing he was a "sexual deviant".  *shrugs* if my father is still being a father to me that's his business.  Would I look at him the same?  I can't call it but I wouldn't necessarily cut off my relationship with him because of it.  If it was bothering me that much and I can't look him in the eye n'sh*t i'm sure he'd notice. And i'm sure mom would tell him that I found his Queen stash. Honestly...i'd be a bit curious too tho.  What is your make up game lookin' like? 
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She nosey as hell. 
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As long as she didnt find any pics of children or any evidence that he is the long lost Zodiak Killer she should get over it. So her dad is into some kink, that has nothing to do with his role as a father or how he treats her.
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