| Ming wrote:|
I've heard people refer to someone as bm/bd when they've been together 97 yrs then had a child. The second the child is born, you're a bm/bd. Have a child in wedlock then divorce, you're a bm/bd.
One of my friend's FB friends husband died and she called him her bd. I had a coworker who'd call her son's father her baby fatha, come to find out the boy is 6 and they were still together
I only say it when Im tryna be rude
It doesn't matter how long they have 'been together'. Hee hee!
It you have a child out of 'wedlock' .. you are by contemporary standards a 'baby mama'. DUH! 'Being together' is just shacking up. No commitment, no family structure, no support, no financial stability, no framework for responsibility and the list goes on - and before you know it .. there’s another baby by ANOTHER baby daddy. Ghetto.
Then people don't understand why there is so much poverty in the AA community and there are so many gangs. Gangs ... because there is no stability and FATHER in the house so the kids grow up any old way .. and end up in jail/gangs.
Sure there are the exceptions .. but without a legitimate family structure you cheat the kids you love so much out of a fair start in life. So yes, in 15 years they themselves will get knocked up or knock someone up... and the cycle repeats itself.
This is not the fault of White people.. Black people are just raising their kids any old kind of way IF THEY ARE NOT LEARNING TO KEEP THEIR KNEES TOGETHER. Geesh.
And White people can be just as ghetto - because they can be 'baby mamas' too. This term was created by the Black community because propensity to lay up and get knocked up is soo prevalent ... that they made up this term for it.
When I was in high school, they had this big public awareness campaign to bring to attention the number of high school unwed mothers - particularly in the AA community. The big term they used was they do not want you 'to become another statistic'. Meaning just another AA that got knocked up.
I always thought .. well, my parents didn’t have to worry about me ... I don't even understand why these girls having sex either .. because I wasn't.
AND THAT WAS IN 1970!!
So yes, this baby mama thing is waaaay through the roof today. Way out there. I don't think anyone back then could have anticipated that this situation would have gotten EVEN WORSE over the years.