This is complicated so try to follow:
I have three bffs. I'll call them Jan, Witney and Aby. We are our own clique (everyone is cool wth everyone else). We all went to the same HS and have been friends since. Things have gotten weird...
Jan's birthday is in Feb. For her birthday, all of us went out & had a ball at the club! Jan got calls, texts, facebook posts, apppearance at her celebration, etc from us all.
my birthday is in March. I wanted to go pole dancing & magically everyone is busy/broke/makes no moves to come celebrate my birthday. Aby was the only one that called me for my birthday. Witney and Jan both forgot and when they remembered neither one of them called me or even bothered to make up for not going out with me.
Aby's birthday was two weeks ago. (She is my closest friend out of the three) and Jan, Witney and I called her, texted, facebook posted, etc. She is in NY so we didn't go out for her day.
Witney's birthday is TODAY. Jan took her to the club w/o even bothering to mention to me that they were going out definitely. Whitney got calls, text, facebook posts, etc.
I am away (1 hr.) at school while these Jan and Witney still live at home in our hometown. They see each other often & have only been out to visit me at school once each in my entire FOUR years of school. I have come home for their events whenever they have them (until recently b/c senior years has kept me busy).
another thing that has been happening is the outings without me & ignoring of my texts (texting my back a day later or not at all). I will admit that Jan and Witney have asked me to go out on occasion & I wouldn't be able to go because of school or work though. They have also texted me about how much they miss hanging out with me.
Now I am having mixed feelings about our friendship. Its obvious that my birthday was overlooked and that I have been kept out of the loop with some things. if these were your friends, what would you do?
I am moving to DC for school & feeling like I should just let the friendships with Jan and Witney go. I'll be closer to Aby (my closest friend) anyway. Would you let them go or try to mend them before the big move?
How would you feel...?