So, you have a co-worker about ten years your minor.
They start at the company after you've joined--in fact, you've
They seem very chatty, gossipy, very much an "attention whore". In an attempt to make them feel welcomed, you are trying to go with the flow, but it's definitely a lot of flow to handle.
Before they joined, you had your music playing softly at your computer. You asked, whilst training them, if they minded your music and they said no. Upon leaving your desk for two days in a row, you find that they've taken it upon themselves to turn your music off.
You decide not to address the issue, and wear your earphones to listen to your tunes...only, you can't listen to the music and indulge them in the chatter they insist on aiming your way. So now, out of even more courtesy, you shut your music off to talk to them.
They have an obsession, so it seems, with cologne/perfume. They come in to work wearing excessive amounts of it, and constantly reapply throughout the day. You've tried to cope with it, tried to ignore it, but it gets to you enough that you make a comment about it, and they immediately become defensive. You decide to drop it, and struggle through it (thanking God for the days where your allergies are so bad you can hardly smell it).
Just when you think it can't get any worse, you notice a pattern with them concerning eating at their desk. It's constant. Every 10-20 minutes, they are eating at their desk, and the sound is very disturbing as you're just a few feet apart.
Candy wrappers are being crinkled, there's lip-smacking, there's crunching, there's gulping, there's slurping, etc.
They arrive at the job an-hour and a half before you do, yet do not feel comfortable eating within that time period. You come in later, sit at your desk, and that is when they choose to unwrap and munch on food. They also take their lunch breaks an hour before you, so as they're returning you're walking out the door, yet when you return from your lunch break, they're opening up another container of food.
You're both sitting up at the front desk. You are the first point of contact when people walk through the door, and also when people call in on the phones.
You attempt to speak to them several times about the eating, and request that--if they cannot eat when you are not around, that they take a break in the break room (as they aren't helping with the workload while they are eating, anyway). They become defensive, begin to cry, and scream that you are harassing them.
You approached them directly because you felt it would create a problem (and an uncomfortable work environment for you both
) if you needed to drag a supervisor into it. You figured you could talk to them, co-worker to co-worker, and figure out a solution, but you were wrong.
You refrain from further communication (it's tense in your work area as a result, but you are not about to be accused of further harassment, so you keep your distance).
Back when you were trying to keep the peace, you kept your mouth shut about the fact that they were taking it upon themselves to leave 5-10 minutes later than their scheduled lunch break, thus making YOU 5-10 minutes late into taking your break.
Now that you're both wary of each other, you figure they'll go back to watching the clock when they know they are scheduled to leave so that you can get back to your scheduled time, but instead they figure they got their way with the eating they might as well continue going to lunch when they feel like it.
You've spoken to your supervisor, who is trying their best to allow you two to handle it on your own before they lay down the law. It'll end up happening though, you know it, but I'm interested to know how you'd react to all of the above.
Would you ignore it all and keep smiling in her face?
Would you have said something to her from the get go?
Would you have spoken to a supervisor from the get go?
How would you have handled this?