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Yumyum28 wrote: I dont think any stake burning is taking place. Condescension is judgemental, regardless of how many people do it or whether or not they are AWARE they're doing it. Lets call it, what it is. I agree with alot of the points you made in this thread, and I personally have clear skin, so heavy makeup isnt a necessity for me. I do however LOVE wearing makeup. See how i just said that without making it seem like IMO heavy makeup wearers are gross? Thats what I mean

That's cool. Still don't see any of what you just said in her statement and tbh the amt of sensitivity occurring in this thread overall is a bit twilight zoneish.

I think she looks a little 'overdone.' I don't think it has anything to do with clear skin as I don't have the most clearest skin and I don't feel the need to put every kind of makeup on my face. I don't think it should look like you're wearing makeup. Foundation doesn't have to be put on everywhere on your face and you certainly don't need to have perfectly manicured brows lined with concealer. Then again, that is probably not her 'day' look, so I'm probably talking out my a**.

she's not the only one

maysay1 wrote: ms_wonderland wrote: Maysay, I think most women have felt that with varying insecurities. I don't really subscribe to the line of thinking I have to hide things to avoid that feeling...I am far from perfect and I stopped giving that power to a man a long time ago. It's not about giving power to a man or anyone else for that matter. I felt the same humiliation when my 8 year old nephew asked me last week why I have spots all over my chest. Or when I go get a pedicure and the lady asks me why my feet are covered in stretch marks. Or when I was getting a kidney ultrasound and the tech asked me how many kids I had (just making conversation) and I had to say, I don't have any kids, I just have really bad stretch marks. I'm not "giving my power" to those people. It's just that moment of awkward embarrassment where they see something is wrong with you and now we both have to acknowledge this ugly thing. It's uncomfortable. But it's great that you don't feel you have to hide to avoid that feeling. I think if other people weren't so rude about it (staring, making horrible comments, making their disgust clear through their facial expressions/tone) then many wouldn't feel that they have to hide.

That was a real ass post.