wow

The men I dated in the past and my hubby don't mind at all. He knows what women have to go through to get beautified. Sometimes he'll say don't do curly hair today do straight. As far as makeup he knows what I look like before and after and he's like ooooooh weeee my baby is looking fine today. If I don't wear makeup he says I look natural. shrugs shoulders. I don't mind it at all.

Most Nigerians have smooth blemish free skin but we still wear makeup for the excitement. Beautybjj is Nigerian also but iuuuno what happened to her skin. Her skin seems oily hence the blemishes.

ms_wonderland wrote: Maysay, I think most women have felt that with varying insecurities. I don't really subscribe to the line of thinking I have to hide things to avoid that feeling...I am far from perfect and I stopped giving that power to a man a long time ago.

It's not about giving power to a man or anyone else for that matter.

I felt the same humiliation when my 8 year old nephew asked me last week why I have spots all over my chest. Or when I go get a pedicure and the lady asks me why my feet are covered in stretch marks. Or when I was getting a kidney ultrasound and the tech asked me how many kids I had (just making conversation) and I had to say, I don't have any kids, I just have really bad stretch marks.

I'm not "giving my power" to those people. It's just that moment of awkward embarrassment where they see something is wrong with you and now we both have to acknowledge this ugly thing. It's uncomfortable.

But it's great that you don't feel you have to hide to avoid that feeling. I think if other people weren't so rude about it (staring, making horrible comments, making their disgust clear through their facial expressions/tone) then many wouldn't feel that they have to hide.

maysay1 wrote: ms_wonderland wrote: Maysay, I think most women have felt that with varying insecurities. I don't really subscribe to the line of thinking I have to hide things to avoid that feeling...I am far from perfect and I stopped giving that power to a man a long time ago. It's not about giving power to a man or anyone else for that matter. I felt the same humiliation when my 8 year old nephew asked me last week why I have spots all over my chest. Or when I go get a pedicure and the lady asks me why my feet are covered in stretch marks. Or when I was getting a kidney ultrasound and the tech asked me how many kids I had (just making conversation) and I had to say, I don't have any kids, I just have really bad stretch marks. I'm not "giving my power" to those people. It's just that moment of awkward embarrassment where they see something is wrong with you and now we both have to acknowledge this ugly thing. It's uncomfortable. But it's great that you don't feel you have to hide to avoid that feeling. I think if other people weren't so rude about it (staring, making horrible comments, making their disgust clear through their facial expressions/tone) then many wouldn't feel that they have to hide.

summary?

i don't wear all of that stuff on my face (foundation and all that other brown stuff)

my skin is pretty clear

i don't judge people who wear all that stuff...if thats what they like/need fine

but don't judge me for NOT wanting to layer all that stuff on my face or for feeling it isn't necessary for me