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EPITOME 
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Joined: Feb 08 2007
Location: Escarpin
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Points: 484546
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 Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 9:58am |
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I honestly only did that in college like Sang said. I couldn't see myself at 30 dating potential. I don't groom men for other bitches but shout out to those who do because you make them great for the next girl.
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QueenBee
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Joined: Oct 01 2004
Location: Nevereverland
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Points: 51531
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 10:09am |
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Pgrace.. I giggled. Read your post aloud too my sister and she hollered with laughter.
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Princess Grace
Elite Member
Joined: Feb 10 2011
Location: On Your Mind
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Points: 137350
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 10:21am |
Why should you cheat yourself because some random you met made poor planning and life choices? Any man worth a damn would bow out and remove himself from the dating pool or at least date someone in the same boat as him. Naw they wanna trade up  under the guise that its hard out here for a brotha. 
Grace is only looking in her bag to reapply lipgloss not my wallet to pay for any dinners.
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Katrenia
Elite Member
Joined: Jan 12 2005
Location: Cali
Status: Offline
Points: 61057
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 10:44am |
I lost a UPS VP because I had no patience. I was in school saying "Niqqa please, you work for UPS"  He was a fine man who loved me but I thought a courier???
We can only advise you on this and some of us have past experience but you know this man's heart and you'll need to decipher the signs. Me; I'm not getting rid of my car because the transmission went out however if I'm having engine issues and constant leaks, I'll be trading that one in.
You'll need to spend the time to see if he's gonna be a classic or a lemon.
Edited by Katrenia - Jan 25 2014 at 10:46am
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Katrenia
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Joined: Jan 12 2005
Location: Cali
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Points: 61057
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 10:51am |
 Princess Grace wrote:
Please do not date him exclusively, pretty pretty please. You could meet someone already together waiting on him who MIGHT get it together. Then not being mean while you sitting there encouraging him, accepting Victoria Secret lotion gift sets for Valentines day cause his $$$ is funny then he never really does any better.? I am afraid of men with a bunch of excuses and I get the hell out of there fast......Then you will have ate all those 2 for $20 dinners at Chili's for nothing.
No seriously if he knows he needs to get it together then why is he trying to date ?? He needs to focus on him right now and study his Intro to Biology. It will be almost 6-8 years before he can do anything IF he is working full time and taking classes at night. Lort please tell me he is childless....
You gone look up, he gone be living with you because he had a situation, sinking in your couch, while yelling Bae what fo dinner with the remote in his hand watching the NFL package he done ordered on YOUR Direct TV???
Get out NOWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!
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afrokock
Elite Member
Joined: May 19 2008
Location: South London
Status: Offline
Points: 1266523
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 11:15am |
YoursTruly wrote:
get himself together. Let's say you're in your 30s, you own your own
home, own car, great career, no kids. You meet a great man the same age
as you (he's hilarious, smart, tall, dark, & handsome, no
kids)....he has all the personality traits (and look) you're looking for
EXCEPT he doesn't have his financial $hit together. He's looking for a
better job, trying to go school, get a better car, and take care of his
credit. On one hand I say help him out, motivate him, help build the
brotha up....but.....on the other hand I'm like yall the same damn age
so why couldn't he have gotten his stuff together by now too. 
Would you wait for him to get this $hit together or would you keep it moving? |
i understand things like credit can get messed up and we are constantly looking for a better job (but this depends on one's current job), i'll discount the car because cars can be liabilities and not an indication of financial responsibility and sometimes are an indication of financial irresponsibility. however, what is his current job and and go to school to do what? if its to get his first qualification vocational or otherwise, while i commend the epiphany to get his life together, if i was advising my female kin id say let it go. he can holla back when he gets in school at least or has bettered 2/3rds of his current flaws unless he's a comedian, humour doesnt pay the bills and men have a propensity to leach off well established women
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PurplePhase
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Joined: Jun 08 2004
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Points: 232632
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 11:28am |
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PG said everything I was gonna say.
(lol)
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HowardAlumAKA
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Joined: May 21 2012
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Points: 21781
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 11:34am |
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Does he even want to be with you or does he want you to wait????
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nitabug
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Joined: Sep 25 2008
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Points: 339325
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 11:56am |
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for me, not worth it.
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afrokock
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Joined: May 19 2008
Location: South London
Status: Offline
Points: 1266523
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Posted: Jan 25 2014 at 11:56am |
PurplePhase wrote:
PG said everything I was gonna say.
(lol)
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everything apart from trying to date. he should date in his income bracket
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