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We're Black women in America and of all the things that are unfair you(Maysay) are passionate about eliminating maternity leave. There's more than one thing wrong with that line of thinking. But opinions are opinions...
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i just saw someone say she and her dh say they have decided not to have kids and decided they'd be better as cat parents.  if that heiffer wanted the same type of leave to bond with her pvssy[ies]....i'd feel some tye of way.

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Originally posted by india100 india100 wrote:

Maysay it's not late . ^^^ I want to adopt you . India needs a sister to argue with . I swear you never will agree with mothers , Jesus, or anything that relates to having children . I love you though . Now that i see how hard you stand for your op . LOLCryHug


Not true, really I swear.

I think people who are emotionally, physically, and financially stable are the only ones who should be having children. I think people who abuse and neglect their children are scum. Simple.


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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

and I think someone here asked this before but don't remember who it was, but that article said that raising a child born in 2012 will cost a mid income fam a total of $301,970 over 18 years.  Doesn't include post sec. education.

  (didn't we have a can you afford a child thread one time? lol)


I posted an article about the cost of raising a child

I think it was more than that though

and most just said oh well kids are expensive, don't worry about it
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:


Because it's a choice. Nobody is being forced to have a baby. It's a personal choice, just like going to a retreat.


lmao

I do question your passion for properly raising/caring for kids now

like I question the motive


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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


lol

my boss make 3 times as much as me

I want her paycheck even though I don't have as much work experience

now let's make that happen so everything is fair

again, you are focusing on the time off and not that purpose of the time off


Right, because the purpose doesn't matter.

A medical reason is a medical reason...doesn't matter if that's because of a car accident or a c-section.

A non-medical reason is a non-medical reason...doesn't matter if it's bonding with your baby or bonding with yourself at a meditation retreat.




and this is the part that is crazy to me

they call the first three months of a baby's life the fourth trimester

how can you even compare that time to a retreat?


Because it's a choice. Nobody is being forced to have a baby. It's a personal choice, just like going to a retreat.
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:



Right, because the purpose doesn't matter.

A medical reason is a medical reason...doesn't matter if that's because of a car accident or a c-section.

A non-medical reason is a non-medical reason...doesn't matter if it's bonding with your baby or bonding with yourself at a meditation retreat.




and this is the part that is crazy to me

they call the first three months of a baby's life the fourth trimester

how can you even compare that time to a retreat?



You might could (yes ) stop breathing suddenly in your sleep or discover you have a hole in your heart or you might even be trying out breast feeding, the retreat might have a lactation consultant for people with calcium deficiency.

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Originally posted by AshBash89 AshBash89 wrote:

We're Black women in America and of all the things that are unfair you(Maysay) are passionate about eliminating maternity leave. There's more than one thing wrong with that line of thinking. But opinions are opinions...


How does me talking about maternity leave in one thread indicate that I don't recognize that there are lots of unfair things in the world?

Currently on my list of things that I worry about:
foster care
the unjust legal system
lack of access to healthy food
the super high suspension rate of black children in preschool
the sexual assault rate of black children and women
genocide and civil war in the sudan, congo, and other places in africa
lack of access to std, pregnancy, and child rearing information for black women
unequal pay  for black women
the sterilization of ethiopian refugees in israel
...and on and on and on
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Dads breast-feeding their babies? Gender-bending photos aim to show support

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March 4, 2014 at 11:57 PM ET

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Image: man with baby
Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
Photographer Hector Cruz started off with the goal of raising money for billboards with images like this around his hometown of Clarksville, Tenn., but after the public latched on to his photos, he's expanding his goals.

The photograph shows a shirtless man, clutching an infant to his breast much as a nursing mother would. Beside him is a message: “Project Breastfeeding. If I Could, I Would.”

“I decided that the best way to get the conversation started was to get the men involved," says Hector Cruz, founder of Project Breastfeeding. "There is nothing out there for men [about breast-feeding]. I wanted to change that.” 

These photographs, a twist on slick ads, are part of a project Cruz started to educate men about breast-feeding. After his wife, Nicole, gave birth to their daughter Sophia on Oct. 11, 2013, she struggled with breast-feeding. Suddenly, Cruz became immersed in a world of nipple guards and latching problems, and he felt helpless and confused. 

A 2013 CDC report notes that women are more successful at nursing when fathers support them. The report also finds that dads who know more about breast-feeding are better able to encourage their wives

Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
Many dads want to support their partner's efforts at breast-feeding, but aren't sure how. Hector Cruz's photo project aims to support breast-feeding education for men.

Cruz hired a lactation consultant to help his wife and daughter. He soon realized that most of the information about breast-feeding targeted mothers.

So Cruz, a professional photographer, asked a few fathers if they would pose as if breast-feeding their children. His goal: raise enough money to use the photos for billboards around his hometown of Clarksville, Tenn. 

But first, Cruz had to find subjects. Alan Bartlett’s wife, Rebecca, exclusively breast-fed the couple’s two daughters, so he felt very passionate about it. When Cruz asked if he would pose, Bartlett immediately said yes.

“I think that men posing with their child in a similar way as women breast-feeding … shows the support that men have for their wives,” he says.

Image: man with baby
Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
Alan Bartlett, holding daughter Avalee, wanted to show support for his wife, Rebecca, who exclusively breast-fed the couple’s two daughters,

Bartlett, an IT specialist who works in Fort Campbell, Ky., didn’t feel self-conscious posing topless and mimicking breast-feeding with his daughter, Avalee. The 9-month-old squirmed a lot, making the photo shoot tricky, but it felt as natural as holding her. He enjoyed being able to make a public statement supporting his wife.

“Really understanding how my wife’s body works, helps me to understand my children and their developmental and physical needs and makes me a better father,” Bartlett says.

Image: Man with baby
Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
A 2013 CDC report notes that women are more successful at nursing when fathers support them.

While Cruz’s original intention was to post a billboard, his photography project has become so popular that people across the country are now asking if Cruz will photograph them. When these families contact him, he says the fathers tell him how they wish they understood more about breast-feeding.

“[There are] a lot of dads who are excited to see the project," Cruz says. "A lot of the guys who are pro- breast-feeding feel like they have a voice. The pictures just allowed the conversation to start.” 

Cruz now plans to start a nonprofit dedicated to educating dads about breast-feeding.

“We actually have really good questions and we want to know [about breast-feeding]," he says. "Every guy wants to be a good father and good husband and we don’t know how to do that. I want every guy to have a place to go.”

Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography
Project: Breastfeeding by Hector Cruz Photography


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Just found out recently that my job sucks. Maternity leave = you dont get fired. But you have to exhaust your vacation time, sick leave, and short-term disability.

Maysay, assuming that you have some sort of medical condition that makes you use up your sick leave and is making you feel so strongly about this; wouldn't you be upset if you end up having a baby next year and your employer tells you that you dont get paid for any of the associated days because you already exhausted all of your sick leave on your existing condition?


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