| goodm3 wrote:|
You're a student so dating someone on your "financial level" is a little silly. Most college students are being supported by their parents. lol...
My issue with the young man you mention is his work ethic. The fact that he doesn't want to finish school....is a big red flag. So unless he's about go into the military...this means he has no plan for this life. A man who doesn't know where he's going, ends up no where in life.
IMO, finances can change. In some cases a degree or a certification can chnage a tax bracket... If the man is willing to work hard to get there and his woman is supportive. I've seen it in my own relantionship. I think many women miss out on great guys because they want a 'ready-made' man.
But, if dude in question is just genetically lazy and has absolutely no drive to change his circumstance...then RUN FAST! That type of person you do NOT need to be friends with let alone date.
I agree but it .. it's not always finances ... it's who you are.
For example I once dated a guy was a selfmade (almost) millionnaire that started a chain of Sporting Goods stores at 19 and by the time he was 46 - he had 8 of them plus an online store. Okay, financially he was doing much better than me. However, as time went on .. my interests envolved into all sorts of things that he had no interest in and when we argued one day ... instead of calling me by my name .. he called me 'College'. The intent was .. since I went to 'College' I thought I know more than him on this topic.
Well, he always gave me the impression my education was no issue but by the SECOND time we got into an argument (over whatever) and he called me 'College' again and rolled his eyes ... yes, I knew it was the beginning of the end. This because even though he made more money .. he was LESS EDUCATED than me.
Now if it were the other way around .. him being more educated than me (regardless of the money) there would have been no problem. His ego would have been good and fed. :)
As far as dating someone that make less money than the woman - I stand by my experiences because 95% of the men I have dated have made less than me - and these are professional educated men.
Not just me, but neighbors, familly, co-workers ... articles I have read etc ... all have the same result.
When the woman earns more money than the guy .. unless he is a HIGHLY EVOLVED Alpha man ... it's gonna turn into ' a problem' sooner or later and for many reasons.
Example: If want to take a trip to Tibet again .. he can't afford this and I am not gonna wanna pay his way, not that he would accept it so either I go without him (he is mad) or I don't go at all (so I am mad). See what I mean? Too much for the guy's ego to withstand and I am not willing to 'dumb down' my lifestyle because he can't afford the things I like.
Again, if it were the other way around - the guy would just pay the girls way to Tibet .. and this would not be an issue at all. Again his ego is fed. :)
So sure I think if the OP loves this guy .. give it a try. Just BE AWARE that such relationships usually come to a bad end so don't invest too much of yourself or you will be hurt in the end.
Life lasts ... a lonnng time so 20 years now things will be sooooo different. You have to have a lifemate that you can GROW WITH.
But the MONEY THING is the number 1 reason for divorce .. and for a lot of reasons.