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I'm on lunch so let me try and do a short version & I'll try to give a non-biased version.
So my uncle hired me at his job (initially as an intern) at a small financial firm. I was hired under the stipulations that I was in school taking night classes as I am working on a graduate degree. Now as an intern I left relatively early most days about 4-5 because classes start at 6.
part of my intern responsibilities were taking care of most office needs (i.e ordering food for the office, taking calls then eventually I was given the opportunity to play personal assistant to the CEO which also included planning company events)
During the summer I realized I could not afford another semester of school so I went to the CEO (like I said small company of about 25 so every one is easily accessible) I told him that I did not believe I would be able to attend school for my second semester and would I still be able to work if I was not there, he said it was fine and work continued per usual.
A couple days after my uncle calls me into his office and asks me about what I spoke to my boss about. After telling him he tells me that they have decided to pay for my school. I told him that I am not majoring in the subject in which I am working and is that still alright he said yes. (this is about a month and a half prior to my deadline) between that time I came to him about 5 times to ask him about the payments, he put it off until the last day which resulted in me loosing the 6oclock time slot having to pick up classes at 4pm which I told him and he said would be okay since I come into work at 7am.
Now soon after this I get called into the office by my CEO who offers me the job of a woman who was leaving. I explained to him that my school course load was heavy and I wouldn't want to take a job that I could not give 100% to, he agreed and called my uncle in. My uncle expressed that he had faith that I could do the job. I still continued to let him know that my school work is my number one priority but he assured me that it would be fine and it would not be smart of me to pass up this opportunity.
In between all of this I was already having problems with my uncle, any personal information I would tell him in confidence would make it's way around the office whether it had to do with relationships or in one specific incident (he came to drop off some furniture at my house; I live with 2 other people - there were some empty liquor bottles in the recycle bin and and ashtray with cigarette and other butts in there) the next day at work while I'm eating my breakfast, in front of everyone (incl. the CEO) he says oh you must have the munchies. Now I don't mind if you joke on me like that in private but we are in a professional setting my relationships and my habits whether good or bad should not and have not followed me into the building therefore I see NO reason you should bring it up.
Now I have fully assumed the responsibility of this new job, but I still have to leave work around 3-3:30 because of my class times and with my workload I also need the time for study and research. He proceeds to let me know I'm leaving too early ( i have already missed two classes due to staying late - which i assume responsibility for) I once again let him know that upon taking this responsibility I already 1) let you know that school will be and always has been my priority 2) I would have to leave early because of my class time and work load. He then proceeds to throw it in my face that they have done more for me than for any intern here, so I politely let him know I did not ask for anything, while I am eternally grateful for this opportunity in such a bad job market I never came to him to ask for school to be paid for nor for this job opportunity.
Now upon receiving this job he has also come up with a set of rules that seem to pertain only to me incl not being allowed to eat lunch at my desk, not being allowed to have my phone out, unable to take personal calls as they pertain to emergencies (ie. my apartment flooded about a month ago and I got reprimanded for asking to go home and deal with it, even though he has taken multiple days out to supervise work being done on his home also another individual left early to fix a plumbing issue) -- now I understand me being a newbie i may not be granted all of the same luxuries as experienced employees but my struggles are just as real if not more so than many.
When i express my frustrations with my school workload, he proceeds to tell me about his wife who is in school and working with kids failing to realize obviously that his wife works two days a week from home - only takes one class - and doesn't have to worry about coming home to no food on the table or unpaid bills because you take care of everything. My point in saying that is my problems are relative to my experience he cannot base her ability to juggle and mine when the situation is completely different.
Then he begins to comment that I shouldn't be wearing my hair natural and it's more presentable straight, that I should wear makeup everyday because I look "tired" and a host of other things that would be considered against HR rules in most companies. I do my best to maintain a professional attitude minus a few side eye's
So I've made a few adjustments in how I deal with him as in not telling him personal business (which apparently struck a nerve because he questioned my mother about a trip i took this weekend and why I didn't tell him where I was going)
And as well someone said the lack of respect! THIS IS SO OBVIOUS as he makes fun of my food, my clothes, my bf, my hair which makes other employees feel it is okay and do not take me seriously as an employee.
Okay this was longer than I expected and there is so much more, hopefully I told this in a way that I do take responsibility for my actions but I am just noticing that this may not have been a good idea and retail isn't looking so bad after all.