SpokenWord & GoodGirlGoneG8 ( and a FEW others )have said it all really.
Take credit for your work & don't fear the arrogant tag. If someone tries to take credit fro your work,speak up : As X and I were discussing on X date when I said X or I shared X. Don't whine or call out the person, diplomacy is all it takes. And be ready to expand on the idea , display your spin to show that it is all YOU ( but that you value teamwork.)
Learn how to take credit and be confident without worrying about being seen as aggressive. It is also important to respectfully disagree and know when to let something drop...until later. Keep your grudges to yourself.
STAY AWAY FROM GOSSIPS AND DO NOTHINGS. I keep my personal life private. I attend work functions but my private life is just that, private. As someone posted " boundaries" people become too familiar at times. I had a manager who would talk endlessly about her personal problems, gossip endlessly, etc. I politely steer conversation back to work and told her I don't care about anyone's personal matters. She keeps trying, I change subject.
Learn the system & know your stuff & how to present your thoughts , even zaps like afro wrote, without being angry. Let things roll off your tongue without emotion or being passive aggressive.
One thing I've learned it that knowing/seeing the big picture goes a long, long way : your department, HR, corporate enviro goes a long way. Learn all you can.
But, there will be disappointments and setbacks. I am in a male-dominated industry mostly white males, and race comes up often. THEY mention it, I just keep it moving. I will get mine.
Edited by MassGal - Oct 03 2013 at 8:21am