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When I was in college I dated a guy who had a child. But I knew I wasn't serious about him and had no intentions of EVER moving him into the "boyfriend" category. IMO, I don't want to deal with the potential drama that comes along with that.

Having said that, assuming we're talking about someone with kids who's never been married, I could only possibly ever consider it if it's just ONE CHILD. As soon as people start talking about multiple kids and not a prospect of marriage was ever on the table, it's a total turn off. One child = one accidental mistake (in most cases). Multiple children by the same or multiple people = "I have poor decision making skills and don't give a flying eff about my future or the future of my progeny".

At least in NYC, condoms are free and available at all health centers & most night clubs/bars. So, getting pregnant = a willful attempt to act a fool. If you're azz is too stupid to think that a bit of latex ISN'T a good thing, I want NOTHING to do with you.

Having said that (lol), if I was to be say divorced/widowed with children, I could only date a man who was marriage minded, and probably older with an established career, etc. I'm not interested in any man coming around me who's expecting to lay up on me or to add an additional number to my roster of chicklets with no means of supporting them. I can take care of myself, but a man with no direction is a huge liability. 
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Originally posted by BoutThatLife BoutThatLife wrote:

A woman with no kids is a hot commodity so she'd be out of your league. The female on your level are the ones with a few baby daddies


I WANT TO DIIIIIIIIIIIIIIEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Cry
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these threads are taken seriously?

lol
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

That's non negotiable I see it as a blemish and something I don't really want to deal with.
I wouldn't care if it was a result of a ltr or any of that.

Some ppl like it , I don't.

This isn't about being perfect.


ETA: I agree with Sang on the premade family rip.
Do not want
 
 
 
 
Indeed.  I think for some it's sometimes not even the child...it's the fact that you will never never never come first.  Never.
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Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

Originally posted by 510QUEEN 510QUEEN wrote:

[QUOTE=AmyAmyAmy] Not very.
 
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Sorry if topic but poor Michele looks like she's pushing a wheelchair trying to get the wind outta get face


Right! She is so stiff, moving like she's in pain or something.

Even her poor hair ain't swinging like the other girls .
 
 
 
 
because she ain't movin'.LOL  she ain't got no kinda attitude in her stomps or head swings.  
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

I dare you to go over to the IC (et al.) and ask the maleses 'how hard is it NOT to impregnate' the womens you wish you could have sex with.  Stern Smile
LOL

He wouldn't ask them Os that question...or would he? Lank if it happens though.Evil Smile
 
 
 
 
right? that's a thread I'd read.LOL


Edited by newdiva1 - Feb 04 2013 at 10:13pm
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 Putting in all that work in your personal life and your "reward" is to be a step-dad? No offense, but deep down in my heart I'd feel like I failed in the game of life if that were to be the case. I know it's cold and I try not to judge but that's just how I feel.  

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Originally posted by marumaruyobi marumaruyobi wrote:

26 and 0 kids. Flawless victory 
You and I are in the same boat.

26, no kids, no abortions. Scorpioluv for the win
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Originally posted by ScorpioLuv ScorpioLuv wrote:

Originally posted by marumaruyobi marumaruyobi wrote:

26 and 0 kids. Flawless victory 
You and I are in the same boat.

26, no kids, no abortions. Scorpioluv for the win


Shoot, nowadays it's great to make it to 18 with no kids.


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I'm 24, childless and keep getting approached by divorced fathers. idk what it is. Ppl w/ kids should date each other bc they have much more in common *shrugs*
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