Womens, how hard is it NOT to have kids?!?!

When you find the answer let me know.....

Finesseful wrote: OoDles O wrote: How do you active parent without custody? You can still pick them up from school sometimes, take them out to lunch, call em about their day etc... It's men who go months at a time without seeing & hearing from their kids because it isn't convenient enough for them.

Edited by OoDles O - Feb 04 2013 at 9:30pm

Well damn! What page is that post of BelleFemme's on? I need to go thank it.

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Edited by FarraFace - Feb 04 2013 at 9:55pm

When I was in college I dated a guy who had a child. But I knew I wasn't serious about him and had no intentions of EVER moving him into the "boyfriend" category. IMO, I don't want to deal with the potential drama that comes along with that.

Having said that, assuming we're talking about someone with kids who's never been married, I could only possibly ever consider it if it's just ONE CHILD. As soon as people start talking about multiple kids and not a prospect of marriage was ever on the table, it's a total turn off. One child = one accidental mistake (in most cases). Multiple children by the same or multiple people = "I have poor decision making skills and don't give a flying eff about my future or the future of my progeny".

At least in NYC, condoms are free and available at all health centers & most night clubs/bars. So, getting pregnant = a willful attempt to act a fool. If you're azz is too stupid to think that a bit of latex ISN'T a good thing, I want NOTHING to do with you.

Having said that (lol), if I was to be say divorced/widowed with children, I could only date a man who was marriage minded, and probably older with an established career, etc. I'm not interested in any man coming around me who's expecting to lay up on me or to add an additional number to my roster of chicklets with no means of supporting them. I can take care of myself, but a man with no direction is a huge liability. 

these threads are taken seriously?

lol