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A night out and me time every now and then is a good thing for the parent.

The child will be ok .
There is another parent and if the other isn't around someone in the support system who they trust.

Edited by jonesable - Feb 04 2013 at 5:40pm
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How do you active parent without custody?
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Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Maysay is right. These single parents spend more time trying to get up under somebody new than raising their kids. If you have a small child wtf are you doing always in the street? This goes for women AND men. Guys think they are exempt from active parenting because they don't have custody.


That kills me. I was out with a friend and her cousins once (back in high school, he was older) and her cousin wanted to buy an outfit for his daughter but he didn't know what size clothes or shoes to get nor what colors she liked or anything. Clearly you don't spend enough time with your child if you don't know what size she wears.

And maybe you can't visit every day and eat dinner with them or read a bedtime story, but what's to stop you from picking up the phone and talking to them every day...nothing but the fact that you don't care enough to even try to be a good parent.
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So a single parent should neverrrrr date and be alone until the child/children are grown?? Da fuk?
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Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

How do you active parent without custody?


You can still pick them up from school sometimes, take them out to lunch, call em about their day etc...

It's men who go months at a time without seeing & hearing from their kids because it isn't convenient enough for them.
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Originally posted by CamiK CamiK wrote:

So a single parent should neverrrrr date and be alone until the child/children are grown?? Da fuk?


No, but it shouldn't be a top priority. Especially if your kid is young and so are you. Take teen mom for example. They we're bringing their children around people they barely new and some of them couldn't even pass the ged test. Like get your head outta the clouds and focus on doing the best for your child and yourself.
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Originally posted by CamiK CamiK wrote:

So a single parent should neverrrrr date and be alone until the child/children are grown?? Da fuk?

i think that is stupid to say. however comma i do think the priority of any parent is their child and as such, your life and your decision making changes. your life should not be about your pleasures and desires but about those of your children. being a parent is a lot of work, esp. if you're alone.

an occasional night out with your girls or a date will not hurt your child and likely make you a more well rounded parent. sometimes you just wanna shoot the sh*t and let out some steam and have some adult company. 

i have a problem w/women jumping from man to man with no regards to their kids and neglect them.


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There is a happy medium.
Some parents are just fools.

Reasonable ppl know how to go out every now and again and still be great parents.
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Originally posted by Finesseful Finesseful wrote:

Originally posted by CamiK CamiK wrote:

So a single parent should neverrrrr date and be alone until the child/children are grown?? Da fuk?


No, but it shouldn't be a top priority. Especially if your kid is young and so are you. Take teen mom for example. They we're bringing their children around people they barely new and some of them couldn't even pass the ged test. Like get your head outta the clouds and focus on doing the best for your child and yourself.
Off topic but I so wanted to discuss this last week. Leah was killin' me getting dropping out of school, engaged, getting pregnant by him and bringing her kids (one is special needs) around the dude after knowing him a little over a month or two I believe. Slow down girl.Dead
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Being a single parent is not the issue, having multiple children with multiple "baby daddies or mommies" is.
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