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I don't have kids and almost all the blk and Spanish girls I grew up with started early. They had full blown (minus an actual wedding or engagement ring) by 18
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

BREAKING NEWS:

If you're a single parent, your pretty much SOL for......well.....the rest of your life because when your kids get older, you're gonna be to damn old to date anyway. This has been a Public Service Announcement.


Oh boy......


not if you have them between the ages of 15 and 19


Oh great. Then get can become grandparents at 30. LOL!
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Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

BREAKING NEWS:

If you're a single parent, your pretty much SOL for......well.....the rest of your life because when your kids get older, you're gonna be to damn old to date anyway. This has been a Public Service Announcement.


Oh boy......


not if you have them between the ages of 15 and 19


Oh great. Then get can become grandparents at 30. LOL!
Many out here are
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I feel like single parents shouldn't even have time to date...every minute should either be devoted to your child or yourself. Especially if you have more than one child.


so the time that is devoted to yourself can involve dating no?


In my opinion, no.

Basically, all your time should be spent focused on your child. By devoting time to yourself I meant, improving your skills/education/job if you're in that situation or resting from all the time you have to spend with your child. You shouldn't have time left over for dating.

If you have a co-parent, then I can see how you might have time. But in that case, you're not a single parent so this doesn't apply.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I feel like single parents shouldn't even have time to date...every minute should either be devoted to your child or yourself. Especially if you have more than one child.


so the time that is devoted to yourself can involve dating no?


In my opinion, no.

Basically, all your time should be spent focused on your child. By devoting time to yourself I meant, improving your skills/education/job if you're in that situation or resting from all the time you have to spend with your child. You shouldn't have time left over for dating.

If you have a co-parent, then I can see how you might have time. But in that case, you're not a single parent so this doesn't apply.

this is not always a problem
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I feel like single parents shouldn't even have time to date...every minute should either be devoted to your child or yourself. Especially if you have more than one child.


so the time that is devoted to yourself can involve dating no?


In my opinion, no.

Basically, all your time should be spent focused on your child. By devoting time to yourself I meant, improving your skills/education/job if you're in that situation or resting from all the time you have to spend with your child. You shouldn't have time left over for dating.

If you have a co-parent, then I can see how you might have time. But in that case, you're not a single parent so this doesn't apply.

this is not always a problem


Right, that's why I said if they're in that type of situation where improving those things would help them...which most single parents are.
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i know a widowed mother of 3 who lives like this but it couldn't be me.  if done responsibly, you might be able to nab a really good step-dad.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Ya know...a dude with kids might not be so bad now that I think about it. Not for a serious relationship obviously...but as a short term person to have fun with...that could work.



Just don't meet or interact with the kids(s) AT ALL. They get all attached and weird.

Anyway, my boo has a son. I always said I would never date another man with kids after I had a bad experience in the past. Just so happens the person I met and caught feelings for came with a different kinda ba ge than I did lol.

It's not really drama cuz his son is a pre-teen so him and baby mama have long since worked out their issues and she lives outta state.

It's had its hard times at some points, but he is worth it.

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Maysay is right. These single parents spend more time trying to get up under somebody new than raising their kids. If you have a small child wtf are you doing always in the street? This goes for women AND men. Guys think they are exempt from active parenting because they don't have custody.
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i don't think your children will suffer if you go out on a date or enjoy a ladies night every now and then.  all work and no play doesn't always make someone the best person they can be...everyone needs an outlet and being a parent shouldn't be like a prison sentence.  if we are talking extremes, of course no one should be out all the time but every now and then really won't matter.
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