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EPITOME 
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 Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:24pm |
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I feel like single parents shouldn't even have time to date...every minute should either be devoted to your child or yourself. Especially if you have more than one child.
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so the time that is devoted to yourself can involve dating no? |
In my opinion, no.
Basically, all your time should be spent focused on your child. By devoting time to yourself I meant, improving your skills/education/job if you're in that situation or resting from all the time you have to spend with your child. You shouldn't have time left over for dating.
If you have a co-parent, then I can see how you might have time. But in that case, you're not a single parent so this doesn't apply.
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this is not always a problem
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:26pm |
EPITOME wrote:
maysay1 wrote:
EPITOME wrote:
maysay1 wrote:
I feel like single parents shouldn't even have time to date...every minute should either be devoted to your child or yourself. Especially if you have more than one child.
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so the time that is devoted to yourself can involve dating no? |
In my opinion, no.
Basically, all your time should be spent focused on your child. By devoting time to yourself I meant, improving your skills/education/job if you're in that situation or resting from all the time you have to spend with your child. You shouldn't have time left over for dating.
If you have a co-parent, then I can see how you might have time. But in that case, you're not a single parent so this doesn't apply.
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this is not always a problem |
Right, that's why I said if they're in that type of situation where improving those things would help them...which most single parents are.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:26pm |
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i know a widowed mother of 3 who lives like this but it couldn't be me. if done responsibly, you might be able to nab a really good step-dad.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:27pm |
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Ya know...a dude with kids might not be so bad now that I think about it. Not for a serious relationship obviously...but as a short term person to have fun with...that could work.
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Just don't meet or interact with the kids(s) AT ALL. They get all attached and weird. Anyway, my boo has a son. I always said I would never date another man with kids after I had a bad experience in the past. Just so happens the person I met and caught feelings for came with a different kinda ba ge than I did lol. It's not really drama cuz his son is a pre-teen so him and baby mama have long since worked out their issues and she lives outta state. It's had its hard times at some points, but he is worth it.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:32pm |
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Maysay is right. These single parents spend more time trying to get up under somebody new than raising their kids. If you have a small child wtf are you doing always in the street? This goes for women AND men. Guys think they are exempt from active parenting because they don't have custody.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:37pm |
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i don't think your children will suffer if you go out on a date or enjoy a ladies night every now and then. all work and no play doesn't always make someone the best person they can be...everyone needs an outlet and being a parent shouldn't be like a prison sentence. if we are talking extremes, of course no one should be out all the time but every now and then really won't matter.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:39pm |
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A night out and me time every now and then is a good thing for the parent.
The child will be ok .
There is another parent and if the other isn't around someone in the support system who they trust.
Edited by jonesable - Feb 04 2013 at 5:40pm
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:40pm |
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How do you active parent without custody?
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:40pm |
Finesseful wrote:
Maysay is right. These single parents spend more time trying to get up under somebody new than raising their kids. If you have a small child wtf are you doing always in the street? This goes for women AND men. Guys think they are exempt from active parenting because they don't have custody.
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That kills me. I was out with a friend and her cousins once (back in high school, he was older) and her cousin wanted to buy an outfit for his daughter but he didn't know what size clothes or shoes to get nor what colors she liked or anything. Clearly you don't spend enough time with your child if you don't know what size she wears. And maybe you can't visit every day and eat dinner with them or read a bedtime story, but what's to stop you from picking up the phone and talking to them every day...nothing but the fact that you don't care enough to even try to be a good parent.
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Posted: Feb 04 2013 at 5:42pm |
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So a single parent should neverrrrr date and be alone until the child/children are grown?? Da fuk?
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