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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Why is it offensive? I don't want a man with kids either.



he made it sound like its a disease. Sounds disrespectful.

a woman is 'not together' if she has a child/children MM?

lol i try not to read too much into the way he says things...he's young...it probably is frustrating to keep meeting 21 and 22 yr old women with kids when you're just trying to have fun.  

you can definitely have it together with kids.  the women with kids are usually doing better for themselves than the men with kids.
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Depending on the circumstances no she isn't together.
I feel the same about a guy.

That's a lot going on


Well then this would speak to the type of women he is going after or finding himself with. Not fair to generalize/ Most of the women i know with a child/children are very much together ---careers, homes, the works.
One/two kids when youre in a solid financial situation and know what youre about, is not a negative IMO


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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Why is it offensive? I don't want a man with kids either.



he made it sound like its a disease. Sounds disrespectful.

a woman is 'not together' if she has a child/children MM?

lol i try not to read too much into the way he says things...he's young...it probably is frustrating to keep meeting 21 and 22 yr old women with kids when you're just trying to have fun. 



yeah, i can understand from that angle

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I know plenty single mothers who are ambitious and all that jazz.

But I do see it as a major misstep especially if its unplanned.



A man can have all the above but if he is a single father I see it as a blemish

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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I know plenty single mothers who are ambitious and all that jazz.

But I do see it as a major misstep especially if its unplanned.



A man can have all that jazz but if he is a single father I see it as a blemish


You dont know peoples individual situations, i think its quite presumptuous to judge people just off the bat.
The man/woman may have been in long term relationships, may have been married, etc. Youre not perfect, no-one else is.
Having a child/children isnt automatically a bad thing.
If a woman/man by choice, or circumstances end up being a single parent, for a myriad of reasons but are fully capable of taking care of their child/kids in every way, i think its unfair to just cast aspersions simply because thats not your situation.



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I don't care about anyone's situation.
I don't want a premade family. 
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is this getting messy ? 
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That's non negotiable I see it as a blemish and something I don't really want to deal with.
I wouldn't care if it was a result of a ltr or any of that.

Some ppl like it , I don't.

This isn't about being perfect.


ETA: I agree with Sang on the premade family rip.
Do not want

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jones..i honestly wouldnt want to take on the responsibility of a man's kids....so i can understand. But i wouldnt easily judge that man for having a child/kids (unless its with 3 different women, etc, lol), because he's a single dad
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No it's not me judging him.
He could be an awesome guy with a lot of things going for him.

But I don't think I could.
Some ppl say the same about short guys .
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