(just saw this on The View)
since it's BHM cheating theme week (month, year) LOL:
is this true?
Women Are Better at Hiding Affairs'Women are better at having affairs.. they cover their tracks': Sexpert TRACEY COX says wives are playing away more than ever
- 1.4m women in relationships will seek out affair online this year
- They use sites Illicit Encounters, Adult Friend Finder and Shagaholic
- Affairs are less about 'emptiness' in marriage and more about sexploration
By
Tracey Cox
The
first week of January is when affairs are most likely to happen with lots of
marriages stretched to the limit over the Christmas break.
Used to be women had affairs if they fell out of love with their husbands and in love with someone else.
These days, a woman can be blissfully happy with
her 2.5 children, in love with her husband and reasonably sexually
satisfied - and still feel justified having more than a bit on the side
Then it became
pseudo-acceptable (between friends and as much as affairs ever are
accepted), to have
If-only-I-hadn't-drunk-so-much-or-I'd-never-have-done-it
one-night-slip-ups, if you weren't getting any at home.
Illicitencounters.com - the
UK's largest and longest running dating site for married people - has
750,000 members. A high proportion are women. Other sites like Adult
Friend Finder and Shagaholic are also boasting soaring female
memberships.
Women are better at keeping secrets and covering their tracks, so less likely to be discovered
There's been a massive
shift in women's attitudes towards affairs. Some of it is the 'Fifty
Shades of Grey' effect: women feel they've been given permission to push
boundaries and try things they wouldn't dare to before. If their
husbands don't want to, they'll go elsewhere.
The
guilt most feel doing this is minimal: 'I deserve it.' 'It makes me
feel alive.' 'I'm a great wife and mother, this is for me'. 'He'll never
find out - who am I hurting?' 'Why give up something which gives me
intense pleasure?'
Women are better at having affairs, says Tracey Cox, pictured
Affairs are becoming less
about filling an 'emptiness' in the marriage and more about
sexploration. A case of wanting the cake and eating it too.
It's about having the basics (long-term security) as well as the trimmings (exciting bits). .
But
here's the irony: turns out women aren't just playing men at their own
game of cheating, they're better at it. Women are better at keeping
secrets and covering their tracks, so less likely to be discovered.
The
old perception about affairs was that women didn't have as many as men
because they're in control of themselves sexually and men aren't.
The
uncomfortable truth is, given half the chance, women cheat as much as
men do. The difference now is we've got just as many opportunities as he
had.