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Why does his opinion even matter? Confused
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OP is there more you would like to share with us?
Is the opinion (or lack thereof) of one man so great it would stir up so much emotion from you?
It's just instagram.
I could see if it were real life and he complimented the child standing next to you and ignored your baby but it wasnt even on that level.

You gotta have thicker skin than that.
Not everyone is attractive to everyone. Such is life
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Originally posted by melikey melikey wrote:

But seriously, does anyone else have a family full of lighter skinned folk who purposely seek "or just happened to" fall in love with much darker mates? I noticed my family has been doing this for at least 3 generations now. It's like every time that slave masters genes pop back up they are intentionally trying to breed it back out.


My paternal grandmother did this bc she was not far removed from the slave masters blood line and still had the family's slave name until she married. My first born aunt had a different dad, then My dad, uncle, and aunt shared the same dad, all.carried the slave name until she finally married the third man that came along and changed their last names to his last name.

She's not black but she made sure she married/procreated with the darkest black men she could find. Which out of all 6 of my aunts, 2 uncles, and my dad, only one aunt came out with what you would consider brown. Everyone else is light skinned. That one aunt, which is one of my favorite one, had 4 children and all of them were light except the oldest one with her first husband. He was dark skinned and ended up being the king of the coons. Married white twice and had mixed babies. Nothing wrong with that except he bashed black women in the process. I had to delete him off my friend list on FB bc his status messages were just horrible.

I remember my aunt called me and during one of our routine chats, asked me about why I deleted him. She more so inquired bc he had mentioned it to her in passing..

I told her it was bc of the negative things he said about black women. He can love those white women till the cows come home but he needs to show respect for black women. He has no reason to bash black women on social media and displaying his ignorance for everyone to see. He has sisters that have married and had daughters with black men, he has cousins that have married and have daughters with black men.

He would post pics of his children and post captions like, "the color of perfection"

My aunt was so flabbergasted and she told me that my other cousin, her younger daughter, had told her this same thing awhile back bit she didn't want to believe her..


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"Why does it seem like light skin gets more love"

In my opinion, that is like asking why do blondes get more love than other whites. colorism crosses all ethnic groups and the darker your skin is, the more likely that someone somewhere is trying to oppress you and make out to be less worthy of compliments than those with lighter hue.
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And yes, colorism is real out here but you have to be the one to teach your daughter that she is beautiful no matter what her skin color is. Who cares that some color struck negro thinks that the light skinned baby is cute? Even though I do understand what you are saying. I wouldn't even want anyone that is color struck in the vicinity of my child. As long as you think your child is beautiful, who gives a what anyone else thinks? But you're young and you have a lot of life to live and a lot more to experience. So you'll come to realize this as you mature and get older. Just try to shake it off and keep it moving. Don't let this boy get you in your feelings. It's not worth it.
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Originally posted by Miss SDY Miss SDY wrote:

I wouldn't even want anyone that is color struck in the vicinity of my child.

My paternal great grandmother used to pass for white for work. When my brothers were babies in the late 1960s (they are 1 yr apart), she made a comment where she 'made a difference' in their skin tones. My dad heard it said the next time that they see her, it will be when they are standing over her casket. He meant it and stuck to it. He wasnt having it.
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Bribbs, can you post a pic of the two babies?

I don't mean so we can sit here and vote on it or anything, but I think we all want to know whose theory is correct. Is your baby too pretty? Is your baby prettier but he doesn't want to give you the satisfaction of the compliment? Does he resent you for some other reason? Is your baby unphotogenic? Is the other baby "striking"? etc
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Maybe he's tryna her. 
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light skin dark skin sh*t annoys the hell out of me. 
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

light skin dark skin sh*t annoys the hell out of me. 
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