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This is ridiculous, could it simply be he just doesn't find your child cute/beautiful??

Not saying she isn't, but beauty is different for different people. J/S
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Originally posted by melikey melikey wrote:

But seriously, does anyone else have a family full of lighter skinned folk who purposely seek "or just happened to" fall in love with much darker mates? I noticed my family has been doing this for at least 3 generations now. It's like every time that slave masters genes pop back up they are intentionally trying to breed it back out.

In my family, there are primarily light women/dark spouse, but I know first hand that the dark men are aggressively going after, giving their A-Game and committing to the light woman.

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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (3) Thanks(3)   Quote NJHairLuv Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 25 2014 at 1:47pm
I know what the OP is talking about. I have seen people rave over a light baby and seconds later all they have to say about the dark baby is 'oh wow, he is getting big'.

my parents shielded us from colorism, but I learned the heft of if from being a BHM member and that helped me to be more aware of it day to day. Thank you BHM.


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Listen, if you your baby is da bomb then it shouldn't bother you when a negro dont compliment her face, unless that's her father or someone who is in her life constantly. I dont really understand how you took it as being a light skint/dark skint kind of thing unless you notice that he always compliments only light/mixed babies 24/7.
And yes, I think the light skint people may seem to get more love in society but I see it mostly in TV (music videos and movies) in real life, I don't really see it that often unless you lightskint wit long hurr and a big booty. The guys in my area smang anything that breathes so whether you look like Beyonce or Lupita, you are sure to get laidThumbs Up
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Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

Originally posted by Bribby Bribby wrote:

I'm sure it's been talked about.
I just saw something that bothered me.
A guy that met a girl through me is on her baby's pic like she is so cute, he never said that about my daughter.
Like a lot of people never do, I feel like it's because she's dark and that baby and girl is light skin.

I KNOW my daughter is beautiful don't get me wrong and don't need anyone's approval. Ish like that just irks me though. Everyone where I live is obsessed with light skin/ mixed chicks. 


Move to Europe .. it will be the complete opposite. (no kidding)



LIES.


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Originally posted by femmemichelle femmemichelle wrote:

^^Girl it will come in time. I used to be one of those babies people would stop in the grocery stores as well. 

But children are cut throat and will try their best to tear her down because of her color. I made sure any comment that was made about my color was met with a backhand. Mind you I was an ignant ass 10 year old and I have changed lol, but you get the point. 


I hope not. None of the dark skin older children in our family get it. The only dark skin children I see who get it (God forgive me) are ones who don't look so good. I'm just being real. My sister was beautiful. I'm much lighter. She NEVER got flack about her dark skin in school. I was actually the one teased for being funny looking. My sister got all the dates. She was pretty and people could care less about skin. Just my experience. We all go through different things.
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Originally posted by CherryBlossom CherryBlossom wrote:

I don't have time for colour-struck kneegrows

..never have, never will *shrugs*

..it is what it is, there's no point trying to seek approval or change people like that

I probably am gonna block him and unblock him so we don't have to be friends since it's instagram.

And yeah trueeee cause he always does post pics with white girls like saying he's so in love lol should've known
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I think my problem is that 1) Either people don't like me and don't want to comment on my child or 2) We're just both so beautiful they're jealous and are haters and don't like or comment

But at the same time I am young and the father is way more around in our lives than her, you can really tell shes single & out there at the same time too..

I'm a young single mother, the father and I are not together but we are co-parenting and have not been to any family court or anything..

Originally posted by khivey khivey wrote:

Why would your initial thought be that he thinks her daughter is cuter than yours because she is light skinned? 
If you hooked them up, then he could be just doing it for extra brownie points. You know you gotta accept the child in order to date the mother. 
The whole skin color thing wouldn't have even crossed my mind unless it was something I was insecure about. So as someone else said..please don't project your insecurities on your child. 

I definitely agree with that, that makes a lot of sense


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If someone tell the parent their baby is cute it's about appearance not color.
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I think it has to do with personal interest too
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