| chrissypoo wrote:|
Because it's a cycle and they don't know any better. Chances are that their moms were young and unmarried when they had them and their siblings too so this is normal to them and they see nothing wrong with it. They also probably don't care much about being successful. What pisses me off is when they think they can behave the same way as before they had the child and neglect them by bringing random guys who just wanna hit around them and stuff. People need to accept that you have to make sacrifices for a child and if you're not willing to give up your youth yet, then you shouldn't be having them for the child's sake.
THIS awwwwllllll day.
You can't "uplift", "encourage" and "enlighten" someone who sees absolutely nothing wrong or negative about their situation. If grandma, mama, aunties, cousins and sisters are all repeat "baby mamas" , who dares tell them that they should aspire to get their life together before having kids and ohmyGod/gasp!, have kids by the man that values them as a wife instead of another one of his "baby mamas?"
You can't tell ppl shyt when they're not trying to hear it.
I want more for my daughter than being a baby mama , time and time again..But, from comments I've read on here , some people don't see the big deal. So, it will continue.Generation after generation..And it will keep the prisons full.
And I'm not talking about the exceptions, the "my mama was poor, on welfare ,had multiple kids and now I'm a doctor" story..Because for every one of those, there are likely 100 that ended quite differently..obviously.