How I ended up going
natural started from an accident…
I had always gotten
my hair relaxed as a child and teenager. It was something that I never
questioned. I thought I HAD to. I honestly never liked my relaxed hair though.
It was always short and thin and never grew. I never felt like it looked good
on me. But I thought I just had bad hair and that's why my hair wouldn't grow.
Fall 2008 to Summer 2010 (the summer after my freshman year in college), I
continuously wore braid extensions, taking them out usually after 4 months and
then putting new ones in right after. I liked them cuz they were low
maintenance and looked pretty on me. I never relaxed my hair during this time.
By summer 2010 I take them out and realized that my hair was totally different.
When I took them out i had a stretched afro! I thought it was cool! I then
realized I was natural and decided to stay that way, even though my mom and
aunts encouraged me to relax.
started to research on how to take care of natural hair. I started to detangle,
do twistouts, etc. But then I soon realized how damaged my hair was. Wearing
the braids sooo much and not taking care of my hair all that time, made it
EXTREMELY weak and fragile. Any light pull could break my hair. I had so much
breakage, and my hair was getting shorter and shorter by the week! Nothing
could save my hair at that point. Soon enough, I ended up getting braids again
and wore those for a year. And then the following summer, Summer 2011, I
relaxed my hair.
that occurrence I had always told myself that I would try to go natural again
one day. I wore braids again from Winter 2012 to Summer 2012. I then took
them out and relaxed my hair. Going natural was still in the back of my mind. I
started to think and realized "why wait longer??". I was scared to
big chop, but decided to do it anyway, because I was impatient and wanted to be
natural as soon as possible. No more relaxed hair for me.
On August 21, 2012 I did my shaven big chop. It's now been two
months since then. I haven't once regretted my decision, even if some people
have made negative comments. I'm sooo happy to be natural. My hair is only about 1.25in long,
but I still feel more confident with it, than I ever did with relaxed hair. I
just like it a whole lot more, I love my kinks and coils, it's for me.
wait for my hair to grow more and more and for me to have a cute fro :)