Why bm choose ww over bw

ms_wonderland wrote: modelbusiness82 wrote: Limalady wrote: I hate to be cliche, but why do we care?     Thanks for sharing the letter OP, but it is an old repost. When it was first posted, it was nice to see a BM taking up for BW, but it still begs the question... Why do we care why some BM prefer WW? You've been thanked and I totally agree. Spend less time worrying about what others are doing and more with getting yourself together. I found my happiness, I found my love, I don't need to walk around with the dusty mouth (a la Kat Williams - pre his crazy days) getting embittered about what someone else WHO I DONT WANT is doing. Lol both of y'all found love outside of black men. Interracial love isn't as easy to accept for those who feel slighted so they need to hear reassurances like this...it's actually sad. It's sad that we are the predominate race who needs reminders that our own men want us...i hope the necessity for this stops.

LOL yes, I'm team swirl, but regardless of whether you date in or out...if you constantly focus on the negative stories that reality or media continue to push at us, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If all you ingest/read/think about in terms of relationships is "who don't want you", "why black men date out", "why black women are considered undesirable", why are you (collective) surprised when your love life is less than ideal?

Not to sound corny, but to make a change you need to be the change. There are plenty of black men who prefer to date their own. There are plenty of men from other races who have no qualms with dating/marrying a black woman. Life - and especially love - is ultimately what you make of it.

Naturalchick30 wrote: soarlikecruz wrote: Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.   I agree with the bolded.

Flowing-Ice wrote: Naturalchick30 wrote: soarlikecruz wrote: Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.   I agree with the bolded.  i hope women don't honestly believe this.  control, haha.

BeatriceBean wrote: a meh, a snap and a twist

They both made good points.