Has this been posted before? Found it on FB
It seems that an article was written to
Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response
from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's
attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me
because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said
they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too
needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess ba ge.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached
by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of
the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I
would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and
coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years
for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson
Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry
Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius,
Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I
wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so
many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.
not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the
record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one
of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they
were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were
raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their
virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait,
brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too
much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile
and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears,
and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our
black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than
us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman.
Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men
and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over
their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A
Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington,
Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth
"Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong
black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in
and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women
over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be
misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some
type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut
and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were
over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over
the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black
woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black
woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women
who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the
black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I
could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just
the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the
fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about
black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their
integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness
to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed
and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and
suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy
more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother
to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and
understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for
a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty