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    Posted: Jan 15 2014 at 6:21pm
So I just finished watching the third episode of "Being Mary Jane" and when the wife said this i nearly fell out of my chair. I wanted to slap her so hard. 

Such an accomplished woman in her own right and it's like she tied her sense of self worth with her husband...

I know there are women like this but I just don't understand this mentality

Where do you think it comes from?  I think it's a cross between low self-esteem and societal views that put pressure on women to get their self-worth from being wifed up, being a wife, etc..

The indoctrination is sad...i know a few women who think like this
do u? Thoughts?



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Getting married to a nigguh with money(and intelligence) is my ultimate goal in life, tho.
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I hear u but I'm sorry I will never beg a cheater back...wtf is that???
and that mentality of who's gonna want me now? women be taking L's out here...fucc
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Maybe it's because I have this view of myself but...I don't think it's sad, just rational and realistic.

Certain traits are undesirable and that's just the truth. The more undesirable traits you have, the less likely you are to find high quality romantic partners.

Better to be real with yourself. It's freeing to know your place and be satisfied with it.
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in a world of $7billion, stretch marks and kids are undesirable to everyone? (granted maybe $1billi are eligible bachelors)

everyone has undesirable traits before the cheating husband and 2 kids as well....it's a loser's mentality and not one that any woman should have imo
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As many would you date someone with kids threads on bhm...can you seriously blame her?
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Maybe it's because I have this view of myself but...I don't think it's sad, just rational and realistic.

Certain traits are undesirable and that's just the truth. The more undesirable traits you have, the less likely you are to find high quality romantic partners.

Better to be real with yourself. It's freeing to know your place and be satisfied with it.
Well damn. My first thought:
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Listen to your mother, kids. Aim low. Aim so low no one will even care if you succeed. Dinner's in the oven.
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Originally posted by mrshairdo mrshairdo wrote:

So I just finished watching the third episode of "Being Mary Jane" and when the wife said this i nearly fell out of my chair. I wanted to slap her so hard. 

Such an accomplished woman in her own right and it's like she tied her sense of self worth with her husband...

I know there are women like this but I just don't understand this mentality

Where do you think it comes from?  I think it's a cross between low self-esteem and societal views that put pressure on women to get their self-worth from being wifed up, being a wife, etc..

The indoctrination is sad...i know a few women who think like this
do u? Thoughts?





If she is saying 'Who's gonna want me with 2 kids & stretch marks"
this means her value and worth in this world is TOO closely tied to the fact that she does or does not have a ´relationship.´ No backbone.

Honestly, I don´t understand women that think like this is 1939.
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A woman with two kids? ....not on my bucket list lol
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote yaya24 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 15 2014 at 7:24pm
I think she added the stretch marks part to emphasize the reality that she has 2 kids..  and thats an instant eyesore for most single men.

Especially if they don't have any kids of their own or are not in their 40s (and above).



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