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Everything I'm not getting right now.

Financially stable at a certain age, no law problems, secure in himself and able to make me feel secure as well, not a liar, mature, has a career, goals, family oriented, sweet, kind, doesn't like to fight, is able to put others before himself, no addictions, no mental problems, clean, responsible, doesn't have a wandering eye, intelligent, likes to save money, out going, not all over the place and knows what he wants, is productive with his time, has good manners and morals, isn't a hypocrite, believes in god, has a conscience, dresses nice, but not too flashy, wants a family, intelligent, good looking.

I let 2 good ones get away and I get sad thinking about it and sometimes wanna turn back time, especially with one. One made me feel so secure and always complimented me, I never felt even once he would cheat. He was working on his career and had to move around a lot and had to leave and didn't realize how much I loved him. He realized it and did return, but I was stupid and hated him for leaving before. When he left, I ended up dating bad men and blamed him for it like an idiot. I could still have him though. The other was still in love with his ex, but because if him I found my self confidence again and stopped doing bad stuff. He told me I was too intelligent to be messing with the losers I was messing with and he encouraged me. Because of that, I pulled myself out of a funk and got my career going, took better care of myself...

Currently, I have someone who needs to make A LOT of changes to be my ideal mate. I won't come back until he does make some of those changes.

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Originally posted by purpulicious01 purpulicious01 wrote:

Not just any "mate," but this is my criteria specifically for a husband:

Practicing Muslim (not NOI, 5%, or half-stepping)
Respectable
Family-oriented 
Respects his mother
Good provider
Handsome and clean/good hygiene
Non-smoker/drinker

Someone that is God-conscious, responsible, mature, gives importance to his family, has goals, dreams, ambitions, and plans for the future;  READS books (Playboy and magazines don't count in my book), can hold a good conversation (not just on simple-minded things), is educated on the world (e.g. can hold his own in a discussion about America's foreign policy/politics), strives for growth in all facets of his life -spiritual, mentally/intellectually, financially, personally.
My man is like this, I luv the values and traits that she passed on to him they have brunch every Sunday and he already let me know she is #1LOL which im cool with cause he treats me like the Queen that I am.
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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

Originally posted by browneyez4548 browneyez4548 wrote:

Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

hopefully it's the one I'm with now
*crosses fingers/fingas*


Aren't you like 20 years in? LOL


you saying I'm stuck now, like it/ideal or not? LOL


Yes LOLLOL



oh well. Next time I'm picking Don Cheadle.LOL
how long have u been married Purp?   u know don is a commitmentphobe
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote GG Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 11:16am
Originally posted by HeyBeautiful18 HeyBeautiful18 wrote:

Originally posted by GG GG wrote:

Where do you go to meet guys anyway?


I have no idea


Can we start a thread on this?!?
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

it'd be interesting to see people say how well their mate stacks up to this list--like years later
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Originally posted by hauteshellbi hauteshellbi wrote:

Spin-off what do you bring to the table...who's gonna make the thread
this thread & that thread  have both been done b4
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Originally posted by AmyAmyAmy AmyAmyAmy wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:

Originally posted by AmyAmyAmy AmyAmyAmy wrote:

Ive sworn off men


why?


The Men I'm attracted aren't checking for me like that and ive accepted it.
Clapmore ladies on bhm need to be like youClap
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I agree with Maysay about females and exes as friends. It gets messy especially if the chick is his go to confidant.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote GG Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 05 2014 at 11:24am
Originally posted by AmyAmyAmy AmyAmyAmy wrote:

Originally posted by AmyAmyAmy AmyAmyAmy wrote:

Ive sworn off men



The Men I'm attracted aren't checking for me like that and ive accepted it.

What kind of men?

Edited by GG - Jan 05 2014 at 11:27am
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