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Yep and rich ppl commit suicide all the time

See same thing

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i know you weren't trying to offend… I'm good 

i understand what you guys are saying but i feel like I'm definitely right.  
maybe you guys have amazing relationships.. but many don't. 

most people don't have the kind of love that they'd choose over money 


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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i know you weren't trying to offend… I'm good 

i understand what you guys are saying but i feel like I'm definitely right.  
maybe you guys have amazing relationships.. but many don't. 

most people don't have the kind of love that they'd choose over money 


but coco...many people don't have either...so what does this really mean? Most people post sh!t on here they want (possession wise), but won't achieve in this lifetime...i.e. "dream vacay" "dream house" threads...it is what is.

I'm kind of over this debate because were on opposite sides of the aisle.  Depending on where you are in your personal life, your priorities change. My priorities are vastly different now than they were 10yrs ago.
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youre in denial jones.. 

they're not the same thing. 

i understand that if your relationship is really successful.. they can bring about the same happiness.. 

but to the world… and the original point of this discussion.. 

financial freedom = success 

not the sole acquirement of a man 
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Originally posted by Jewelsnyc Jewelsnyc wrote:

Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

i know you weren't trying to offend… I'm good 

i understand what you guys are saying but i feel like I'm definitely right.  
maybe you guys have amazing relationships.. but many don't. 

most people don't have the kind of love that they'd choose over money 


but coco...many people don't have either...so what does this really mean? Most people post sh!t on here they want (possession wise), but won't achieve in this lifetime...i.e. "dream vacay" "dream house" threads...it is what is.

I'm kind of over this debate because were on opposite sides of the aisle.  Depending on where you are in your personal life, your priorities change. My priorities are vastly different now than they were 10yrs ago.

most don't have either but if you ask which they'd prefer.. 'a man' or 'being able to splurge on whatever they want' 

they'll choose the money 

like i said.. if he's your perfect soulmate.. i get it. 

but my point was just that in these arguments.. a man doesnt equal #winning 
a woman shouldn't be/feel validated by having a man.. 
i think its fine/normal to feel validated by having money though.. 
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Plus they don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Added income +companionship is usually what a good man brings
That's what Sandy is talking about too.

I'm not gonna widen the scope when it comes to money on this board bc y'all usually just mean bags here.
We will keep it superficial.

Money validates someone but having true companionship doesn't?

Yeah...ok coco

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youre the one who keeps taiking about bags.. 

I've said, its not about the bag.. it can be able trips, money in the bank, or your odd collections.. whatever you choose to splurge on. 

but we don't need to continue with this convo.. its pointless 
i know you know what I'm saying 
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:



Money validates someone but having true companionship doesn't?

Yeah...ok coco

i said.. if its your perfect soulmate than i get it… 

but the argument wasnt about finding 'the one' it was solely about 'i have a man.. you don't.. i win' 

(not just speaking about sandra.. i said i never get that argument on here.. I've said it with various ppl) 
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I really don't think it's all black and white.

Having a relationship doesn't equal auto happiness
And neither does having money equal auto happiness.

I wouldn't want to be broke as fuk with an awesome relationship
But I wouldn't want to have riches upon riches and lack that companionship.

There is a happy medium among the too .No hard choice to make.
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Plus they don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Added income +companionship is usually what a good man brings
That's what Sandy is talking about too.

I'm not gonna widen the scope when it comes to money on this board bc y'all usually just mean bags here.
We will keep it superficial.

Money validates someone but having true companionship doesn't?

Yeah...ok coco
Clap you did that...

 maybe that's why I feel so strongly (and comprehend this logic) about relationship trumps money, because I'm not lacking in either & I have that in my man. I gravitate towards the emotions of love because I've known my partner just about all my life and our connection goes deeper than the metaphysical ideas of love or just acquiring "things". He is the traditional standard of what a man represents which is, security, protection, comfort both financially as well as physically.


 

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