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    Posted: Feb 21 2010 at 11:37am
Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep!
Thumbs up to this black man..

Enjoy..

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a 20 year old

Caucasian woman,
who requested a response from black men.
I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!


Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking, educated and loving Black man. I just don't understand
a lot of Black females attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean,
too argumentative, too needy,
too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men,
willing to wine and dine me and give me the world.
If Black women are so up in arms about us being
with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.
I would like to hear from some Black men about why
we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen,
the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones,
Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy,
Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes....
I could go on and on.
But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why
I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women
because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and
we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE

Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying
that I am a 28-year old black man.
I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house.
So, I consider myself to be among the ranks
of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight
of why Black men date white women.
Back in the day,
one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood
were raised in the church.
They were very strict about when they
lost their virginity and who they lost it to.
Because of our impatience to wait,
brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy
without too much hassle.
So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion,
a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control.
A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women.
We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us,
drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman.
Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is
to control & walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful Black men date white women..

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith,

Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds,

Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women.
 And, to flip the script, there are numerous
white men, in and out of the spot light,
who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson,
Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and
Robin Thicke, to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because
you are 20 and white,
  you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties
and armies of men in Egypt ,
you were over in the caves of Europe
eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught
you how to cook and season your food.

It was the Black woman
that taught you how to raise your children.
It was Black women
who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the Black woman
that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman.

And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen.
It is not

just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them..

that I find most appealing about Black women.

Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls,
their integrity, their ability to overcome
great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for what they believe in,
and their determination to succeed and reach their

highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger
is geared more toward jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks.
If this were not so, then why do you continuously
 go to tanning salons to darken your skin?
If you are so proud to be white,
then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin?

Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips,
and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous like Black women?

Good Morning
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman,
someone I can walk over and control,
I would give you a call.
But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman.
Someone that can be a good wife
and mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles.
I am looking for a soul mate.
I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Wow!! We must pass this on to
make the day of the Black Queens of our
acquaintances!

I looooooooooooooooooooooooooove this email.....please keep this one going ladies....
and gents!






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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 22 2010 at 11:01pm
Yay! *secretly does a little victory dance*
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 27 2010 at 10:21pm
yawn..
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but seriously a great majority of blk men still prefer us so whatw the big deal...so why get all bent out of shape about a small amo9unt a men who explore other options??
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 27 2010 at 10:15am
 This topic is so beaten to death, I'm over it.Thumbs%20Down Everyone stop complaining about and defending why they do or do not prefer interracial dating.  Date who you want no matter the "race" or ethnicity.  At the end of the day, who cares? 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 30 2010 at 12:13pm
Originally posted by mscaribbeanma mscaribbeanma wrote:

yawn..
so old...
 
but seriously a great majority of blk men still prefer us so whatw the big deal...so why get all bent out of shape about a small amo9unt a men who explore other options??


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 06 2010 at 11:57am
It's cool that the letter uplifted black women (as often as it's posted) but the whole bagging on white women doesn't make the issue any better.

There should be no berating of any color, only uplifting. The hell am I going to get mad for if a black man likes a white woman? Seriously, do I own black men? I don't understand how anyone can be angry over this.

Think about it: You're getting mad over men that have made it clear you're not their type when it comes to attraction. Is displaying anger and complaining about the "issue" going to magically make this man attracted to you?

Maybe it's just me, but I'd rather pay attention to a guy who finds me attractive for me.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 06 2010 at 11:58am
Originally posted by mscaribbeanma mscaribbeanma wrote:

yawn..
so old...
 
but seriously a great majority of blk men still prefer us so whatw the big deal...so why get all bent out of shape about a small amo9unt a men who explore other options??


And yet you called my white guy thread disrespectful and said I'd/we'd get mad if a black man posted about how he likes white women. Girl, please. LOL
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 06 2010 at 2:10pm
Originally posted by ElectricLady ElectricLady wrote:

It's cool that the letter uplifted black women (as often as it's posted) but the whole bagging on white women doesn't make the issue any better.There should be no berating of any color, only uplifting. The hell am I going to get mad for if a black man likes a white woman? Seriously, do I own black men? I don't understand how anyone can be angry over this.Think about it: You're getting mad over men that have made it clear you're not their type when it comes to attraction. Is displaying anger and complaining about the "issue" going to magically make this man attracted to you? Maybe it's just me, but I'd rather pay attention to a guy who finds me attractive for me.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 10 2010 at 9:23pm
over it. Date who you want to we can now it is no long illegal, some people actually date and marry who they love regardless of race. not saying some do not but still date and marry who they want.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 28 2010 at 1:53pm
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean,
too argumentative, too needy,
too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
 
To the above: White women aren't like this?
To the response: Thank you my beautiful brother. Thank you for the sentiment, the truth. I love you.Heart
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