| ThatGurlD wrote:|
I thought that was a good little talk. I appreciated her honesty.
One thing I have never been able to really articulate is why at home, I feel so beautiful and love and embrace my kinky hair, dark skin and curvy body but as soon as I'm out in the world, I feel fat, ugly and like a freak. Today I wore a loc fro and every time I passed a mirror I sort of smiled. But my coworkers were like, "Did you cut your hair?" "It shrinks THAT much?" "Your hair is so cute." I shrink in the white world and feel bad about myself. I mean, what grown woman is looking to be "cute"? I don't know but I think this lady nailed it.
I don't think skinny thighs and flat hair is attractive. But the world does. I think that's what I feel in the world. No matter how fly I am in my controlled environment, in the world I'm a nappy-headed, dark-skinned and in the 80% of black women who are termed obese.
She is what the world loves. She gets the free stuff.
isn't it so frustrating that some ppl, like coworkers, feel the need to comment EVERY time you do something to your hair, like it's an exotic animal?
when you're out there in the world, you're still beautiful. that doesn't change.