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But I understand what you're saying. I have to tone it down and remain calm. I don't know to what extent it's gonna help and I'm looking for another job (crossing my fingers that I find something before I get canned

Clap you get!! yep you should have reported the other to HR. she would have told on you....
 don't let them get away w anything you feel is wrong. they would have you out w their cousin or friend  in your position.
you being silent make them feel comfortable to say things they shouldn't get away with.
when they do you go to HR & sing like a canary!!! then you smile like Cheshire cat!
I've always been the only black girl. its ok  maybe EEOC worked in my favor but I know what have to do to keep my job if I want it. stay professional confront the lies professionally.
keep notes, dates, comments & copies privately( at your home)
if you leave w problems. you will get a bad referral no one will hire you. this is suppose to be illegal but we know they talk & we can't prove it.
  you know their game &  play it to your advantage.....

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@Kaai: Yeah, I know I should have reported it right away. I could kick myself. My reasoning at the time is that I wouldn't be believed without witnesses (that particular manager has 2 black guys and 3 asians on her team and she's obviously gay. I figured I needed to keep my energy to fight off my collegue that is trying to sink me (although now my boss is covering for her and acting up with me instead). I will remain calm from now on. But I don't expect a personal reference from them. At best, it will be the standard HR procedure where the only thing the divulge to a prospective employer is how long you've been working there. And employers know this usually means you couldn't get direct references...
Anyways, thanks for the advice. I've ALWAYS been the only one as well, and not just the only black female, usually I'm the only black period. This time around, there are two other dudes in another department (working for the racist bytch I was referencing) but I notice they stay mad late after work trying to prove themselves (I know because I stay late too). Always have to do twice as much

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I nEeded this thread.
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I nEeded this thread.
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Originally posted by PRnena PRnena wrote:

I nEeded this thread.
 
What's going on with you, PRnena?
 
PS: I feel a little better today. Spent the past few days at the height of anxiety and not sleeping, but I'm picking myself back up. Must be the green smoothies, lol. I realize now I even responded to my own damn self in a post on here!


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Good Jolie! I'm glad to hear that...life is all about peeks and valley's...super duper big E-hug!!
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Originally posted by Jewelsnyc Jewelsnyc wrote:

Good Jolie! I'm glad to hear that...life is all about peeks and valley's...super duper big E-hug!!
 
Hug Right back at ya!
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