| Alias_Avi wrote:|
I understand what you were saying
I know a lot of dark women are sick and tired of being depicted as miserable and self-loathing but I still think that we as Black women have to be careful of not dismissing the experience of other Black women... we are not monolith, it's okay for documentaries to explore the downside of some our experiences
But like I said, I can understand your opposition to Dark Girls in particular. It wasn't inclusive of all Black women's experiences so it felt unbalanced but I think that was the point. It wants the viewer to feel how serious the issue really is
| naturesgift wrote:|
wait chill, I think you have misunderstood I didn't dismiss color-ism I was acknowledging that it was an issue as a product of institutional and internalized racism... I was just also saying for my personalized experience that this was not my race burden growing up. I was just using that as an example. for the question in this thread.
Side note: What's not your burden can become your burden when you have children. The black man's burden was not my personal experience obviously but when I then 6-year-old son asked me if he was going to be killed, it became my burden. I have sat in the barbershop where my hubby works and listened to dark-skinned men go in on him "but you don't know about that lightskin" and joke on him to the point where they were damn near undermining his manhood. At the same time, my son who is dark like me has said crying, "I wish I was handsome like Daddy."
All these issues become our collective issues when we operate as a people and not as individuals. I agree that the light skin struggle hasn't been as told as much, especially as it pertains to men who are sometimes seen as less of a man because of their shade. Obviously because it was considered a plus, profitable and desirable for so long but it's not all roses as many of us know.
I'd love it if blacks came out and talked more about the double and triple minority (black + woman; black + LGBTQ etc.) We keep recycling the same sagas but we're not telling the full story. There's a lot of pain and isolation that is hardly even acknowledged or joked off.