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i really think the op needs to determine if this is intended to really be a gift.  when i give gifts, i don't really care what the person does after said gift exchanges hands.  but that is just me...shrugs...
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I can't relate. I don't support people, but that seems ridiculous.
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

i really think the op needs to determine if this is intended to really be a gift.  when i give gifts, i don't really care what the person does after said gift exchanges hands.  but that is just me...shrugs...

i agree, but i learned with my family i have to tailor my gifts to their needs. for instance, i have one family member who if i found out needed a computer, I could sent them the money for the computer and they'd they'd take the money, pick out what they want and take everything from there. i have others that i have to buy the computer myself and send it to them. or else if i just sent the money i'd hear that they decided to "treat themselves" and get their hair doneLOL.  love them the same. just had to learn how to handle them.
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i don't know...i guess i view gifts and "help" a little differently.  if i am trying to help someone achieve a goal, then i probably would feel more vested in what they do with said help.  i could care less what a person decides to do with an actual gift, however.  i don't worry about whether a person i give a wedding gift ever uses it or turns around and sells it later.  i gave my mothers best friends daughter my old car (i had an cash offer on it for $3000), i haven't thought about that car not one bit since the title change....not one bit.

 
maybe its the price/size of this particular possible gift that is causing all the apprehension...
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (4) Thanks(4)   Quote Derri Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 03 2013 at 11:33am
honestly...this sounds like a situation where you have to stop the enabling.
I have some  family members who will literally suck me dry of all I have if I let them.
They think because of the relationship, they can do this FOREVER. And if I let them...they will, without a doubt, absolutely ruin me, and have nothing to say about it.
Nope. Nope. Nope.

Your situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Avoid it now and may be called some names, or cry later.



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oh...op just read your update.  this doesn't sound like anything either you or your hubby really wants to do...this is a disaster waiting to happen...
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my cousin said he wanted a tablet for his bday.  i gave him the money for it.  if he had bought something else with the money, i wouldn't have gave a damn...shrugs...

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We buyin' houses for people who can take care of themselves?
sh*t, buy me a house. I make way less than them.
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