| SoutherNtellect wrote:|
| Katrenia wrote:|
| keepgrowing wrote:|
^ You told him and he forgave you or you kept it a secret? Most girls that I know that cheated kept it a secret from their SO.
It was long ago but I was caught because I didn't go to work when I was suppose to and my husband was calling my job. I got home and he asked about my day, I realized he knew I wasn't at work so I left him
. My mother told him about my other man because she wanted to end my marriage. It was very messy, mom said she thought he knew.
Were separated for almost two years after three years of marriage.
no shade, but i suppose in this case it didn't make the relationship stronger
which reminds me, (at the bolded) my neighbors have been arguing like cats and dogs for weeks. she cheated on him and then kicked him out today and tried to make it seem like he was in the wrong. i thought that was crazy
Actually it did.
I left because I didn't think I'd ever be forgiven or that I even deserved his forgiveness.
I watched him blame himself and that was crushing, I watched him try to accept me back into his life and attempt to hide the disgust he felt for me.
I wrote in an earlier post that a relative has experienced this situation but I was writing about myself.
And while all this was going on he wouldn't allow his family to be disrespectful of me. I realized that hurting my husband was like hurting myself because I caused and felt his pain. I never thought about that side of cheating; the shared pain and guilt.
I never blamed my man for the mess I created. We went through marriage counseling, that was rough.
I had to swallow my pride and allow some basic yt bish to tell me I was a child in the body of a woman and if I didn't grow up, I didn't deserve this beautiful man. I didn't like the lady but she was right, I still think she was out line for calling my man beautiful as if to taunt me and he later told me she would call him to check on him.
Don't ever trust those counselors.
We both took each other for granted and I know I'll NEVER do that again.