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Originally posted by Katrenia Katrenia wrote:

Originally posted by keepgrowing keepgrowing wrote:

^ You told him and he forgave you or you kept it a secret? Most girls that I know that cheated kept it a secret from their SO.

It was long ago but I was caught because I didn't go to work when I was suppose to and my husband was calling my job. I got home and he asked about my day, I realized he knew I wasn't at work so I left him. My mother told him about my other man because she wanted to end my marriage. It was very messy, mom said she thought he knew.
Were separated for almost two years after three years of marriage.

no shade, but i suppose in this case it didn't make the relationship stronger

which reminds me, (at the bolded) my neighbors have been arguing like cats and dogs for weeks. she cheated on him and then kicked him out today and tried to make it seem like he was in the wrong. i thought that was crazy
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So the women with the Ring The Alarm mentality, are y'all fixer-uppers?

Like, if the man was upgraded that drastically over the course of your relationship, shouldn't you have been equally upgraded?
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Originally posted by 305bgirl 305bgirl wrote:

Originally posted by mommykat mommykat wrote:

This thread is funny to me… when you age… and have been together for over 12 years the force of love is strong (with some…). If any cheating was goin on (with the hubby) it would be with me … real talk…
In my mind/ head---- I was thinking that --- the grass is always greener on the other side… --- Black Love (m/f)…
I did not get to experience (Black --- Love) --- Like my parents and other--- family members (the first in my family to step out)… I did try… Tho---- Real Talk
You cheated to get some Black dangalang? Did you enjoy it more?


I did not cheat... I have friends that have... so meh.
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Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by 305bgirl 305bgirl wrote:

Originally posted by mommykat mommykat wrote:

This thread is funny to me… when you age… and have been together for over 12 years the force of love is strong (with some…). If any cheating was goin on (with the hubby) it would be with me … real talk…
In my mind/ head---- I was thinking that --- the grass is always greener on the other side… --- Black Love (m/f)…
I did not get to experience (Black --- Love) --- Like my parents and other--- family members (the first in my family to step out)… I did try… Tho---- Real Talk
You cheated to get some Black dangalang? Did you enjoy it more?

Im surprised u understood any of this tbh, i read this and was like,"wtf is she trying to say here?" Confused


WTF is she trying to say... not much... lOL...

I never say much... so thats all I got...

LOL

Edited by mommykat - Jan 03 2014 at 5:32pm
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Originally posted by SoutherNtellect SoutherNtellect wrote:

Originally posted by Katrenia Katrenia wrote:

Originally posted by keepgrowing keepgrowing wrote:

^ You told him and he forgave you or you kept it a secret? Most girls that I know that cheated kept it a secret from their SO.

It was long ago but I was caught because I didn't go to work when I was suppose to and my husband was calling my job. I got home and he asked about my day, I realized he knew I wasn't at work so I left him. My mother told him about my other man because she wanted to end my marriage. It was very messy, mom said she thought he knew.
Were separated for almost two years after three years of marriage.

no shade, but i suppose in this case it didn't make the relationship stronger

which reminds me, (at the bolded) my neighbors have been arguing like cats and dogs for weeks. she cheated on him and then kicked him out today and tried to make it seem like he was in the wrong. i thought that was crazy

Actually it did. 
I left because I didn't think I'd ever be forgiven or that I even deserved his forgiveness.
I watched him blame himself and that was crushing, I watched him try to accept me back into his life and attempt to hide the disgust he felt for me. 
I wrote in an earlier post that a relative has experienced this situation but I was writing about myself.

And while all this was going on he wouldn't allow his family to be disrespectful of me. I realized that hurting my husband was like hurting myself because I caused and felt his pain. I never thought about that side of cheating; the shared pain and guilt. 
I never blamed my man for the mess I created. We went through marriage counseling, that was rough. 
I had to swallow my pride and allow some basic yt bish to tell me I was a child in the body of a woman and if I didn't grow up, I didn't deserve this beautiful man. I didn't like the lady but she was right, I still think she was out line for calling my man beautiful as if to taunt me and he later told me she would call him to check on him. 
Don't ever trust those counselors. 

We both took each other for granted and I know I'll NEVER do that again.
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Not at the above..

Edited by mommykat - Jan 03 2014 at 5:40pm
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how long after he found out did you leave him katrenia? 
I've been skimming.. i thought y'all were still together 
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Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by 305bgirl 305bgirl wrote:

Originally posted by mommykat mommykat wrote:

This thread is funny to me… when you age… and have been together for over 12 years the force of love is strong (with some…). If any cheating was goin on (with the hubby) it would be with me … real talk…
In my mind/ head---- I was thinking that --- the grass is always greener on the other side… --- Black Love (m/f)…
I did not get to experience (Black --- Love) --- Like my parents and other--- family members (the first in my family to step out)… I did try… Tho---- Real Talk
You cheated to get some Black dangalang? Did you enjoy it more?

Im surprised u understood any of this tbh, i read this and was like,"wtf is she trying to say here?" Confused


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From what I understand, K and her husband are still together. They did the counseling and came out stronger, now she'll never do that again.
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ok now i get it. 

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