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Im_oh_so_hott 
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 Posted: May 27 2014 at 6:18pm |
 mangachan wrote:
Yall are WRONG
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Why ? This gentleman needs someone to cook him dinner and rub his back after a long day of saving cats from trees and old ladies from burning apartments. A kid that doesn't come with "baby mama" drama and doesn't need help wiping his ass is good.
Edited by Im_oh_so_hott - May 27 2014 at 6:20pm
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NJHairLuv
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Location: Chanhassen, MN
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 6:48pm |
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If it were me, I would be proud of him stepping up to the plate to save
the child from a foster care experience. Its not like he is taking the
child just to get a foster care check and the free gas, heating &
electricity assistance that comes with a foster child, he is doing it
out of compassion, concern and love. He is showing that he is the strong
black man that kids need.
If she doesnt want to deal with the
situation, she needs to make her choice or hash it out with him and the
pre-marriage counselor to see what is best when everything is on the
table.
This same scenario happened to a woman that I know. She
was in a long term relationship with a guy that we went to college with,
maybe 3-4 yrs and talking marriage. He has a doctorate in a mathematic
field, is hung like a horse and makes a ton of money by BHM standards he
is a 10. She has masters degrees and is management level in her field
and they were around the same age, early 30s. The girl had a knucklehead
older brother who had a baby with a woman that was as irresponsible as
he was and the woman did something and for whatever reason the brother
was in trouble at the same time and the child was about to go to foster
care then possibly be put up for adoption due to unfit parents, so my
friend became the child's guardian/caretaker/mom really overnight. The
Mathemetician was like oh hayl no, youre a momma now, so you cant be
spontaneous any more and I did not sign up to be play-play-step daddy
and he bounced out HARDDDD. Just left with no remorse.
Fast
forward 10 yrs later, her brother and them have the little boy and the
brother is now more mature and responsible, Mathmetician looked her up
& snatched her up and they are now married with a child of their
own. No real moral to this story, just possibly that he should have hung
in their with her since he ended up looking her up and quickly marrying
her anyway.
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mizzsandra00
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Points: 400525
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 6:50pm |
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Moral of the story is REGRET.......
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PurplePhase
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Points: 232642
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 6:53pm |
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I got a different moral but I'm a cynic
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Gkisses
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:04pm |
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So she would be home solo with the child often since hes away at work?
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Im_oh_so_hott
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:13pm |
NJHairLuv wrote:
This same scenario happened to a woman that I know. She
was in a long term relationship with a guy that we went to college with,
maybe 3-4 yrs and talking marriage. He has a doctorate in a mathematic
field, is hung like a horse and makes a ton of money by BHM standards he
is a 10. She has masters degrees and is management level in her field
and they were around the same age, early 30s. The girl had a knucklehead
older brother who had a baby with a woman that was as irresponsible as
he was and the woman did something and for whatever reason the brother
was in trouble at the same time and the child was about to go to foster
care then possibly be put up for adoption due to unfit parents, so my
friend became the child's guardian/caretaker/mom really overnight. The
Mathemetician was like oh hayl no, youre a momma now, so you cant be
spontaneous any more and I did not sign up to be play-play-step daddy
and he bounced out HARDDDD. Just left with no remorse.
Fast
forward 10 yrs later, her brother and them have the little boy and the
brother is now more mature and responsible, Mathmetician looked her up
& snatched her up and they are now married with a child of their
own. No real moral to this story, just possibly that he should have hung
in their with her since he ended up looking her up and quickly marrying
her anyway.
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So, after 10 yrs she's in her early 40's. Was it really love on her part or fear of growing old and being alone ?
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NJHairLuv
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Joined: Dec 14 2013
Location: Chanhassen, MN
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Points: 90581
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:20pm |
Im_oh_so_hott wrote:
NJHairLuv wrote:
This same scenario happened to a woman that I know. She
was in a long term relationship with a guy that we went to college with,
maybe 3-4 yrs and talking marriage. He has a doctorate in a mathematic
field, is hung like a horse and makes a ton of money by BHM standards he
is a 10. She has masters degrees and is management level in her field
and they were around the same age, early 30s. The girl had a knucklehead
older brother who had a baby with a woman that was as irresponsible as
he was and the woman did something and for whatever reason the brother
was in trouble at the same time and the child was about to go to foster
care then possibly be put up for adoption due to unfit parents, so my
friend became the child's guardian/caretaker/mom really overnight. The
Mathemetician was like oh hayl no, youre a momma now, so you cant be
spontaneous any more and I did not sign up to be play-play-step daddy
and he bounced out HARDDDD. Just left with no remorse.
Fast
forward 10 yrs later, her brother and them have the little boy and the
brother is now more mature and responsible, Mathmetician looked her up
& snatched her up and they are now married with a child of their
own. No real moral to this story, just possibly that he should have hung
in their with her since he ended up looking her up and quickly marrying
her anyway.
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So, after 10 yrs she's in her early 40's. Was it really love on her part or fear of growing old and being alone ?
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I was talking about him. He should have hung in there since he ended up having regret of dumping her and realized that she was the person that he let get away. She had moved on, had been engaged two different times to other men and was not living in fear of growing old. When he looked her up, he put everything on the plate, and wooed her really hard, etc and convinced her that he had changed for the better and that he realized that he was an a**hole years back when he dumped her without warning. She was wooed back into love with him by the way that he made himself very vulnerable and open and did everything he needed to do to get her back in his life and to move across the country to marry him. I have no clue about what % of her decision was love, what % was love of that hammer dik or what % was love of his money/social class/financial security since he is paiddddd...I just know that back in the day, he was the love of her life til she dumped him and she was very excited when he looked her up though she was a bit ashamed to discuss the fact that she used to say that she would never ever forgive him. People change tho and they seem very happy. She is actually younger than he is, he is now 42 and she is now @38 and the baby is around 1.5 yrs.
Edited by NJHairLuv - May 27 2014 at 7:29pm
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NJHairLuv
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:23pm |
PurplePhase wrote:
I got a different moral but I'm a cynic
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I hope for the best, but my view is that he is the type that would leave her high and dry if she had a child with a disability or if something happened where she got in an accident and was in a wheelchair/disfigured or something. IMO, how you handle crisis and inconvenient yet important situations means a whole lot...
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Im_oh_so_hott
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:29pm |
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PurplePhase
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Posted: May 27 2014 at 7:29pm |
NJHairLuv wrote:
PurplePhase wrote:
I got a different moral but I'm a cynic
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I hope for the best, but my view is that he is the type that would leave her high and dry if she had a child with a disability or if something happened where she got in an accident and was in a wheelchair/disfigured or something. IMO, how you handle crisis and inconvenient yet important situations means a whole lot...
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