It saddens me to know that there are adults, aka grown people, who don't realize that there are consequences to their actions. A man who can do that is nobody's man. His high school sweetheart better have her two eyes open to witness the type of individual that he is.
Brotha can go head and live life however he sees fit for himself, but if he thinks that I'm going to let him be a coward then he really must not know bout me. Nicca you are going to tell your children what's happening. If nothing else happens, be a man and face YOUR children. And then we will proceed.
Mama got to keep on pushing. For herself and for those precious children who don't deserve this. I'd have to continue to be the best mom to them, and sometimes that means wearing the mask. Because divorce is UGLY and they shouldn't have to see that part of me when they did nothing wrong. But please believe, when they're not in the room I will be plotting and scheming with my bomb ass divorce attorney to ensure that he is cleaned out. Child support, alimony, the house, the car, the dog and the gerbil. Not out of revenge; that's what we would deserve.
Finally, I will seek therapy because I would intend to keep my head high and my booty looking right. I can't be slipping into a deep depression. I would have kids to raise and a future in front of me. I would want the next chapter of my life to be 10x brighter than the last.
I've had quite a few friends and family members in similar scenarios, and it is not easy. But if you keep living life is bound to go on.