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That "keep those kids away" nonsense isn't gonna go far. Even if he has a new baby the other children will still be welcomed by his family.
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It seems like he married out of obligation and not love for it to be so easy to just walk away from his kids why make the suffer for his selfishness.
I wouldn't guard my kids from the fact that their father wouldn't be living with us anymore and make sure he pays for the therapy they will need sucks for everyone involved.
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Originally posted by Krystal Klear Krystal Klear wrote:

I'd have to kill him or and his bitchStern Smile
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If he wants to just up and bitch out like that for some other skeeze, plus family is in my side, I'd take him for everything he has because hell me and my kids deserve it. Don't let him bow out on his terms. Fuc him
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It saddens me to know that there are adults, aka grown people, who don't realize that there are consequences to their actions. A man who can do that is nobody's man. His high school sweetheart better have her two eyes open to witness the type of individual that he is.
 
Brotha can go head and live life however he sees fit for himself, but if he thinks that I'm going to let him be a coward then he really must not know bout me. Nicca you are going to tell your children what's happening. If nothing else happens, be a man and face YOUR children. And then we will proceed.
 
Mama got to keep on pushing. For herself and for those precious children who don't deserve this. I'd have to continue to be the best mom to them, and sometimes that means wearing the mask. Because divorce is UGLY and they shouldn't have to see that part of me when they did nothing wrong. But please believe, when they're not in the room I will be plotting and scheming with my bomb ass divorce attorney to ensure that he is cleaned out. Child support, alimony, the house, the car, the dog and the gerbil. Not out of revenge; that's what we would deserve.
 
Finally, I will seek therapy because I would intend to keep my head high and my booty looking right. I can't be slipping into a deep depression. I would have kids to raise and a future in front of me. I would want the next chapter of my life to be 10x brighter than the last.
 
 
I've had quite a few friends and family members in similar scenarios, and it is not easy. But if you keep living life is bound to go on.
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I was like YASSSS BB!!! Tell IT!! until I got to this part.
Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:


]I've had quite a few friends and family members in similar scenarios, and it is not easy. But if you keep living life is bound to go on.
my heart sunk. How did these ladies make out? Did these no good mofos leave them for younger hoes? Did they get their man back or get revenge or just cry their hearts out
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Most of the time these guys get with the other chick and realize that bish aint all they thought she would be...
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I know one no-good bastid self-hating negrum who has denied his child for 15yrs. He abandoned the bm when she got pregnant. Anyhoo the bm finally took him to court for CS when the kid was around 8, he 1st told the judge that wasnt his kid, that she was creeping with his brother. DNA test showed he was the father, then he told the judge that bcoz he wanted her to have an abortion and she refused, he shouldnt be held liable for CS Stern Smile. The judge nearly slapped the black off him and upped the backpay. Judge asked him about setting visitation rights, he said he has no intention of seeing that child. The boy was in court that day.

Meanwhile at the time he was shacked up with a white woman playing step-daddy to her 5yr old son. Since then he's married the ww and they've had 2 kids. He acts like his 1st son doesnt exist, yet he lives 15miles from him.
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People are so cruel...
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Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

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My husband and I were together for nearly ten years, one son who is nearly eight, and twin daughters who are five. Over Thanksgiving told me he reestablished contact with his first love (his high school sweetheart) and that he is still in love with her and wants to be with her. He said he understands that I will probably hate him forever but he has to be with her and she has accepted him back.

I am not sure what to do because he said he can only contribute monetarily to our children, that this girl's "terms" for her to be with him is that he turn his back on his children and only have a family with her. He is going to do that. He literally told me I can tell our children that he died because aside from whatever child support he is ordered to pay when we divorce he never wants to see them again.

I have been numb. Christmas was horrible as my son and daughters wanted to know where their father was and why he wasn't answering his phone.

His family is taking my side, which is comforting, but his mother told me that he said to her that she better not bring "those kids" around him and his new girl and that she shouldn't worry because she will have "new grandkids" by the end of next year.

I am not sure what to tell my children. As much as I would love to tell them that he's dead, he's not and feel like bearing false witness like that will hurt me in the long run. My son has been acting up lately and my daughters are not their cheerful selves.

I feel like okay, if he wants to leave me to be with that bish, whatever, but how can he turn his back on his flesh and blood? That is what I cannot figure out how to explain to my children. Can a court make him do visitation? I don't want my kids to suffer but I really don't know what else to do.
 
 
 
 
 
i'd be hurt but fucc him. *shrugs* 'Can u do? Ain't no reason to hold on to a man like that. make sure the child support and other paperworks are in order.  I'd set it up so he has option for visitation but I wouldn't force him.  If he can cut off his kids like that then he really didn't care that much to begin with.  Get some counceling for the kids if they need it and K.I.M.
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