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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote creole booty Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 28 2014 at 1:24am
This is the first time that I'm actually eating popcorn.

No. He can not wear a dress. When he moves out he can.

My explanation would be that I don't want him to b distracted. He'd have to participate in society wearing a man's uniform. Then when he's older and able to multi task better with life dilemmas and move towards his goals, he can deviate from societal norms.

I know he can't help how he feels. No one knows y they feel what they feel. I'd just need him to deal with it as an adult, not a poor defenseless child.
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Originally posted by OhMyCurlz OhMyCurlz wrote:

Wellllll.....how folks run their house is their business, but I hope no one would disown their flesh and blood due to their gender identity. 

Girls can show an interest in sports and they are considered a "tomboy"....a boy shows an interest in "girly things" and now it's a problem? Do some of yall have a problem with your little man crying, too? 

There are no longer any reputable psychiatrists that would co-sign that encouraging a child to identify (gender wise) as they feel to be a bad thing. Being a transgender is not a mental illness. These people just repress their feelings and a lot end up committing suicide. Sooooooo, if your son killing himself is worth it to you, just so you don't have to deal with your personal antiquated ideas of your child identifying as a girl, than that's something you will have to deal with. 

But yes, encouraging a child to repress their gender identity is bad parenting

I'd agree if people were saying "I don't want him to be in a dress because I dont want him to be bullied" ............................. 


I understand that people are starting to adapt a gender neutral stance, but let's not be so quick to call those of us who do not jump on this gender neutral bandwagon bad parents or stupid/selfish

Now it's wrong for parents to say that they will raise their boys as boys/men, and girls as girls/women...?  

Yes, part of gender roles is due to socialization, BUT there is no denying that there differences between the genders that are biological and ingrained in us (even down to the way our brains are wired). 

Let's keep in mind that  professional/researchers still disagree and have varying opinions on this topic, so of course us laymen will. 

I enjoy a healthy good and mentally stimulating conversation and disagreement, but limiting my commenting because it's obvious this is just another one of "those" topics ( a circular "I'm right, you're wrong and stupid!" BHM debates) 

But I do find some comments in this thread interesting. It's interesting how some can apply logic in this case, but not in others. We cling to scientific evidence, however once it disagree with our current pov, we throw it out the window. 

I guess some things just aren't meant to be understood.

Anywho, carry along. 
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Oh and I hope it isn't necessary to point out that we can disagree with the choices our child makes, without it diminishing our love for them.
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I don't know about wanting and knowing what sex was at 4 but what I do know is that I discovered that bumping my girly part against things felt good at around 5th grade.  I remember sitting in a tight circle with other girls around my age who did the same thing whispering about it. we weren't fully sure what it meant...but we did wish we had the balls to go behind bungalow C to find out with certain boys.  But ...alas...at that age we understood consequences. 
 
Word to Nancy for being branded a slut for going behind the bungalows to find out.


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OhMyCurlz, what would you do if your son came home and told you he was born in the wrong body and should've been a little white boy?

And he knows in his heart of hearts that he feels like he should've been white. And he's known this since he was very young, playing in the sandbox at school with the other white and black kids.



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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote femmemichelle Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 28 2014 at 8:22am
Because if you would have allowed him to wear a dress, let me know when the skin bleaching would start since you're such a fantastic parent.
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Y'all slay me with these examples.....chiiiiiile




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Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I knew I liked girls since I was 5....I would molest all my older sister's female friends and a couple girls on the bus....good times..I only stopped when I got teased for it...I thought it was normal until then lol

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Nope, my son would not be allowed to wear a dress or girl's clothing. Period.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote herwoman Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 28 2014 at 11:09am
I would not have let my son wear dresses he could want to be a girl all day long but a dress you will not wear.
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