What would you do if your son wanted to be a girl?

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 OhMyCurlz wrote:

Wellllll.....how folks run their house is their business, but I hope no one would disown their flesh and blood due to their gender identity. 
Girls can show an interest in sports and they are considered a "tomboy"....a boy shows an interest in "girly things" and now it's a problem? Do some of yall have a problem with your little man crying, too? 

There are no longer any reputable psychiatrists that would co-sign that encouraging a child to identify (gender wise) as they feel to be a bad thing. Being a transgender is not a mental illness. These people just repress their feelings and a lot end up committing suicide. Sooooooo, if your son killing himself is worth it to you, just so you don't have to deal with your personal antiquated ideas of your child identifying as a girl, than that's something you will have to deal with. 

But yes, encouraging a child to repress their gender identity is bad parenting. 

I'd agree if people were saying "I don't want him to be in a dress because I dont want him to be bullied" ............................. 

I understand that people are starting to adapt a gender neutral stance, but let's not be so quick to call those of us who do not jump on this gender neutral bandwagon bad parents or stupid/selfish. 

Now it's wrong for parents to say that they will raise their boys as boys/men, and girls as girls/women...?  

Yes, part of gender roles is due to socialization, BUT there is no denying that there differences between the genders that are biological and ingrained in us (even down to the way our brains are wired). 

Let's keep in mind that  professional/researchers still disagree and have varying opinions on this topic, so of course us laymen will. 

I enjoy a healthy good and mentally stimulating conversation and disagreement, but limiting my commenting because it's obvious this is just another one of "those" topics ( a circular "I'm right, you're wrong and stupid!" BHM debates) 

But I do find some comments in this thread interesting. It's interesting how some can apply logic in this case, but not in others. We cling to scientific evidence, however once it disagree with our current pov, we throw it out the window. 

I guess some things just aren't meant to be understood.

Anywho, carry along. 