what does he want from me?

I've been crushing on this guy for years(im 27 and he's 7 yrs older than me...just throwing that in there),he finally approached and we've been texting. So anyway I was asking him advice about an outfit or hairstyle and I said oooh u have good taste I'm going to always ask you. He told me "don't do that I'm not the friend zone type dude".

Okay so by him saying that it's telling me he like me but idk if like a hit and quit or potential relationship. I know that's not much to base it off of but I've never had a guy off top just tell me " im not the friend zone type" by me typing that it sounds mean but he's really nice.

He is telling you that he isn't trying to be your friend. Where it goes or what type of relationship ya'll establish is to be determined. Have fun dating him...make sure he takes you out on a date and fall back on all that texting so he can make some actual phone calls. Don't start sexting either...lol that comes later later later 

I think texting - like emailing and posting on forums etc is a fast as easy way to communicate - but it's also a fast and easy way to miscommunicate and read too much into things.

I think there are already several red flags that you are heading down the wrong path...

1) He could have meant anything by that statement so don't give it too much 'life'. I think basically he meant 'hold ON now, don't try to turn me into your buddy so don't come asking me all your girly stuff like that. Let’s just see where this goes'.

He's probably had women in his life before that treated him like this and that stuff makes an Alpha male gag. :(

I think you need to understand that a guy that you 'connect' with for a possible dating situation .. is not the same as a gf you 'connect' with for a friendship – so don’t be asking him (in other words) if ...' your ass looks too big in these jeans?'!

2) Another thing is that question sounds like you are a bit insecure about yourself. This would be another DEATH NELL to a relationship because he will see you as needy and weak. Ask you REAL girlfriends advice about your girl stuff not the guy you are just starting to date.

(Yes, a guy can turn into your best friend AFTER - WAAAAY AFTER you establish a good relationship but these are rather youthful situations when you are both in high school/college).

3)Also at this point .. his being 34 and your being 27 puts you at disadvantage in the relationship (he will try to be in charge of you) so take it easy. Let him chase you and DON'T GO BOOM BOOM with him for several months - just SEE what kind of guy he is and …. if he's good enough for you.

4) Does he know you are ‘crushing’ on him for YEARS? Because that will start it off on the WRONG foot for sure! Don't flatter him or tell him how you feel about him or let on that YOU LIKE HIM and all that crap because the game will be over before it even begins. Then you will be on here writing that he suddenly dumped you. PLEASE TAKE THIS BIT OF advice if not anything else.

5) So don’t be so happy that he is contacting you. He will think you don't get enough 'play' from other men .. which will lower his attraction to you for sure (although he will try to use you for sex). No guy wants a chick that no other guy wants such that she is so happy for a little bit of attention (like a text) from him. Game over ... he will move on.

HE should be happy that YOU have agreed to give him a chance. YOU are the prize afterall … not him. :)

Hold your 'core' strong, be pretty and sweet but take it slow girlfriend. You are in the 'fact finding' phase of the relationship at this moment so keep your cards close to your chest!

Edited by Printer_Ink - Apr 13 2014 at 5:47am

if he hsnt called you to plan a date, you are already in hit  & quit categry.

RUN FAST. DON'T LOOK BACK !!