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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote browneyez4548 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 09 2013 at 10:24pm
Actually come to think of it, my mom usually give pretty good advice. I usually only stop listening when she tosses religion into the mix
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Originally posted by babycakebabe babycakebabe wrote:

i cut them off and calmly say, 'wait, please stop - i can not listen to this story'.Geek
 
LOL  i haven't mastered that skill yet...
if i am not in the mood, i will say lemme call you back in a few...Ouch
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i don't ask for advice because i don't like people in my business, plus most people give advice that don't even tailor to my needs, and like you said i usually already know what i want to do, so what's the point besides sitting around and just venting; which is another thing that i don't do (goes back to... i don't like people in my business).
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Originally posted by ThoughtCouture ThoughtCouture wrote:

Originally posted by babycakebabe babycakebabe wrote:

i cut them off and calmly say, 'wait, please stop - i can not listen to this story'.Geek
 
LOL  i haven't mastered that skill yet...
if i am not in the mood, i will say lemme call you back in a few...Ouch

i've been wilin. i cut off strangers and loved ones alikeLOL
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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

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common sense isn't common

let someone else's experience be your hindsight
 i do agree with this, however i'm not usually one to ask for advice. i prefer to just "handle it". when i do ask for advice, i genuinely am at a crossroads and haven't the slightest idea of what my next move is. so i ask in order to gain different perspectives. 

what i find is a problem with many advice givers, is that they think that because you asked for input or an opinion, that you were going to do what they said and will be upset if you don't. people have got to quit that.  you were just asked for a pov-- no more, no less. 

and some lessons have to be learned first hand. 

being the person that people come to, i also have other feelings. but i'll save it for another thread.  
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I always ask for advice because I'm interested in hearing from a different point of view....Doesn't mean I will apply the advice lol
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My version of asking for advice is presenting a question of, 'Am I tripping? Let me know b4 I do xyz to resolve xxyyzz'.
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I rarely ever ask for advice. Which is weird because Im the person most of my friends come to for advice. When I even consider asking for their input I reflect on all the sh!t theyve shared with me and just keep it to myself because I figure they got to much on their plate to be dealing with my sh!t.  Although I know they would be more than willing to lend an ear...Id rather just have talks with myself....Im just weird like that...
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I don't ask for advice either. My friends are used to me dealing with my problems, and then telling them what happened after the fact.

To be honest, it's a combination of me not liking to air my biz out, and being a control freak when it comes to decisions about my life.

I tend to overanalyze everything anyway, so I usually look at everything from every angle and make the best decision for ME.
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Much of the advice I ask for now is just about minor things, and it's basically to just get another perspective on my problem.  I don't share big issues with anyone.  I was the one who actually taught my mother not to share huge problems (especially those concerning family) with other people because many time other people don't care about your problems.  They just like to hear them so that they can look at you and say their life isn't so bad compared to yours.
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