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india100 
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 Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:37am |
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Men ask me all the time if I have a husband . I respond yes . Why ask if we are happy ? I would never date a guy like that . He would cheat like a dog in heat lol .
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:42am |
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I get it Oodles.
You don't attached the traditional connotations of what being man is to yourself.
You're biologically a male and all the other social expectations don't apply in your case.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:44am |
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I dated a guy, who told me I passed a test, because I opened his car door when I was inside. He opened my door first and then walked around to his.
I smiled, but I thought that was the dumbest sh*t ever.
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I heard that before. It was a long time ago because I have either dated or been married to my DH for 13 years. But I failed because I did not reach over to open the door.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:45am |
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I get it. It's the same problem I have with lesbians/in lesbian relationships.
But it's weird, because conform to it a bit in hetero relationships.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:48am |
smgreene67 wrote:
I heard that before. It was a long time ago because I have either dated or been married to my DH for 13 years. But I failed because I did not reach over to open the door. |
Lol. It's so dumb. I over think everything though. It was nice that he wanted to open the door for me. But that wasted time. He should have just gotten in and then pressed the auto locks so I could get in. I think I was just thinking, if I reach over, it would save time, because then he'd have to unlock the door and open it.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:48am |
i "guess" i could see how that could be the case in a same sex relationship.
i've just NEVER seen a case where a man has completely surrendered all "man" perks in a hetero relationship...my own mine or anyone else's that i have observed for that matter.
maybe it is a generational thing...shrugs...
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:50am |
india100 wrote:
I wonder if expectations are the same in same Sex Couples ? My friend pays for all of her Girlfriend dates based on what she shared with me . |
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Unfortunately, it's the same sh*t. because they play on the same gender roles.
If I take you out. I am buying, unless you are super traditional and I don't feel like fighting about it. If I am always the one taking you out, I will eventually just move on. If I am never allowed to buy or do things, I'll move on too. I'd be more likely to move on faster if it was a guy.
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You would think that for those people who are homosexual, obviously this isn't your customary practice.. atleast as its depicted to the outside world..
why you would dive right into antiquated gender roles.
I mean... you have the option to customize your experience, your involvement with your same sex partner to meet your precise and accurate needs within a relationship.
As a heterosexual male.. I aim to do this with a woman.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:50am |
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Don't judge me off my relationship with my mom it's complicated..
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:53am |
ThoughtCouture wrote:
i "guess" i could see how that could be the case in a same sex relationship.
i've just NEVER seen a case where a man has completely surrendered all "man" perks in a hetero relationship...my own mine or anyone else's that i have observed for that matter.
maybe it is a generational thing...shrugs... |
This is very true. . .My husband and I both have jobs with long hours sometimes but he assumes that I will take care of things at our house like: cleaning (or getting it cleaned), cooking (must have Sunday dinner), groceries, toiletries etc. He thinks that things like toothpaste, soap, etc magically appear at the house. 
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 11:58am |
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As a heterosexual male.. I aim to do this with a woman. |
I more than agree in a homosexual relationship. I have this problem and women want to know who I like more...men or women...masculine or fem women..etc. It sucks. I don't like those that like to identify. You are just who you are. I don't do that whole fem/stud crap. I don't like it. It just seems contrived. I wouldn't want a role. But...when it comes to a hetero relationship, it gets more complicated. I don't ever want to be with a feminine man, even if he isn't self identifying. I have no problems with masculine men. There is a part of me that wants to feel protected. I don't want to feel like I would have to physically protect a man. & I would like to feel like a man can physically protect me. Plus, because things happen, he'd have to prove that he can be a provider. None of this would matter in a lesbian relationship though, other than the fact that she better be able and willing to provide for herself/children. Just one of my double standards.
Edited by nitabug - Feb 12 2013 at 12:05pm
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