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 Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:20am |
 nitabug wrote:
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I don't think it's silly.
If he accepts the offer then she will pay and then we know the deal from there.
I hate the guys in her age group |
How do you know the deal though? You say you are going to do something, and he let's you do it, so now he isn't datable? lol
I guess they both win.
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If its a first date type scenario yeah I do think its in bad taste that he would let her pay. I'll tell her to look for other cues too
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:20am |
OoDles O wrote:
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I personally think the offering to pay thing is silly if you don't really mean it and are expecting the guy to say "no no I'll take care of it". I wouldn't do it. If I offer to pay, than I will actually want to pay. |
Yea, it is silly if you "dont really mean it". I agree... dont offer if you really dont mean it. When me and the homies go out.. I'm like "yo.. I gotchu dont trip (talking bout drinks)" If I go over a girls house and she cooks.. "I'm like yo.. I will wash the dishes.. dont trip"... If I offer up gas money.. Im actually trying to help out... to make your life more convenient...
So maybe.. just maybe... their is a young lady out their who does "really mean it"....to. lol.. when it comes to paying for dinner ....
But they're rare on BHM ... lol
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lol Amen.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:20am |
nitabug wrote:
jonesable wrote:
I don't think it's silly.
If he accepts the offer then she will pay and then we know the deal from there.
I hate the guys in her age group |
How do you know the deal though? You say you are going to do something, and he let's you do it, so now he isn't datable? lol
I guess they both win.
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lol he could've thought you were one of those independent women that really wanted to do it.. I've had that happen to me before when I was in Vegas women offering to buy drinks and bringing them to you when you run out is so odd to me.. I have to check my drink and $hit
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:21am |
nitabug wrote:
OoDles O wrote:
So maybe.. just maybe... their is a young lady out their who does "really mean it"....to. lol.. when it comes to paying for dinner ....
But they're rare on BHM ... lol |
I don't mind paying for dinner, if I offer.
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exactly.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:21am |
nitabug wrote:
OoDles O wrote:
So maybe.. just maybe... their is a young lady out their who does "really mean it"....to. lol.. when it comes to paying for dinner ....
But they're rare on BHM ... lol |
I don't mind paying for dinner, if I offer.
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I know you don't mind Nita I would pay and not give it a second thought if we went out
but base off of my personal experience... it seems like women would rather offer the a*s up before they come up off some paper! LMAO
So if she's actually offering to pay for anything... I know (at the very least) that shes interested.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:21am |
nitabug wrote:
jonesable wrote:
I don't think it's silly.
If he accepts the offer then she will pay and then we know the deal from there.
I hate the guys in her age group |
How do you know the deal though? You say you are going to do something, and he let's you do it, so now he isn't datable? lol
I guess they both win.
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Yeah. If she tries to pay and he doesn't allow her, that's controlling. RUN!
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:22am |
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And India, you make the best threads lol
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:22am |
nitabug wrote:
Over_all wrote:
I'll take the bait.. I get courting a woman back then when women were viewed at as less ($ wise) and women had more character and morals (not saying that don't have it now but $hit they think it's okay to to come out as the side chic).. To me courting was a way of showing that you could or were a capable provider.. But now with all equality and independence comes a realization that we should be courting each other. |
But that is assuming that everyone prescribes to that, and they don't. Some people are still old fashioned and that works for their lifestyle.
With the level of almost equality and forced independence, people are able to pick and choose what they want. Some still want to be courted. & imo, most guys that want to be courted are btches, tbh, imho.
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I Expect no less from my husband . I tried to pay once recently and the man looked at me like i Cursed him out lol . We where in a drive thru for India .
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:23am |
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I think most ppl send their representatives on their first date ( I'm sure BHM is an exception though)
So yeah I don't mind it, if that's a game then I'm cool with that too
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:24am |
*Belle*Femme* wrote:
9. "Not even offering (or pretending to offer) to help with the bill is a huge turn off. Don't get me wrong, I will never let a girl pay on a date, no matter how bad it is but not even offering when the bill comes like it's just expected is usually a deal breaker for me.”—James, 28BYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Can't afford me? don't take me out, its just that simple. Broke n!qqas I swear!
Edited by r0ck_starr - Feb 12 2013 at 10:25am
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