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 Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:11am |
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I don't think it's silly.
It's a venting tool IMO
I'm gonna tell my little sis to do this on her date is weekend to see if the guy is a gentlemen.
If he accepts the offer then she will pay and then we know the deal from there.
I hate the guys in her age group
Edited by jonesable - Feb 12 2013 at 10:13am
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:12am |
ftr, I've already stated in past threads that sometimes if you feel that the date may be the last cuz he's not ur type & feel kind of bad for wasting his time, it's ok to go dutch or toss a few dollars & haul ass.
I hate using guys or making them feel like they got duped
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:12am |
 Over_all wrote:
I'll take the bait.. I get courting a woman back then when women were viewed at as less ($ wise) and women had more character and morals (not saying that don't have it now but $hit they think it's okay to to come out as the side chic).. To me courting was a way of showing that you could or were a capable provider.. But now with all equality and independence comes a realization that we should be courting each other. |
But that is assuming that everyone prescribes to that, and they don't. Some people are still old fashioned and that works for their lifestyle. With the level of almost equality and forced independence, people are able to pick and choose what they want. Some still want to be courted. & imo, most guys that want to be courted are btches, tbh, imho.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:15am |
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So maybe.. just maybe... their is a young lady out their who does "really mean it"....to. lol.. when it comes to paying for dinner ....
But they're rare on BHM ... lol |
I don't mind paying for dinner, if I offer.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:16am |
nitabug wrote:
That gesture seems like a game. Games while dating is a pet peeve of mine too. You have an expectation of him paying, so why even offer?
If I even think I had to offer, I'd check the 'did not meet or exceed my expectations' box.
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100% agree. I hate games.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:17am |
nitabug wrote:
Over_all wrote:
I'll take the bait.. I get courting a woman back then when women were viewed at as less ($ wise) and women had more character and morals (not saying that don't have it now but $hit they think it's okay to to come out as the side chic).. To me courting was a way of showing that you could or were a capable provider.. But now with all equality and independence comes a realization that we should be courting each other. |
But that is assuming that everyone prescribes to that, and they don't. Some people are still old fashioned and that works for their lifestyle.
With the level of almost equality and forced independence, people are able to pick and choose what they want. Some still want to be courted. & imo, most guys that want to be courted are btches, tbh, imho.
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lmao I'm not saying a woman should be trying to do everything men use to do but I do feel you should be trying to impress me as well.. I use to bang this chic who claimed she loved me but never tried to impress me.. The only time she would look like something when she was going out with her friends..
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:17am |
jonesable wrote:
I don't think it's silly.
If he accepts the offer then she will pay and then we know the deal from there.
I hate the guys in her age group |
How do you know the deal though? You say you are going to do something, and he let's you do it, so now he isn't datable? lol I guess they both win.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:18am |
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When I'm with someone I don't mind paying bc I know him and I know his intentions and that he isn't trying to be cheap with me.
I took the bill last week at dinner but he snatched it back.
He really is traditional .
I just get him good gifts instead
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 10:19am |
Over_all wrote:
lmao I'm not saying a woman should be trying to do everything men use to do but I do feel you should be trying to impress me as well.. I use to bang this chic who claimed she loved me but never tried to impress me.. The only time she would look like something when she was going out with her friends.. |
I agree because I do this. I don't like to be with people who wont let me do stuff for them. That isn't fun for me.
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