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smgreene67 
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I never paid for dates when I was single. To me, that is just a flat out NO. I guess that I am a Southern girl at heart and I feel that a man should pay for dates. I was not the type to ask a guy out, so if the guy asked me, he should pay.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:52am |
-Don’t make fun of your date. When I first graduated college, I met this guy and was really nervous. I was trying to seem “funny” and “cool” and started to make fun of him… but I went too far and hurt his feelings. He stopped calling.
This one... I had a guy who kept poking fun at me ALLLL the time. Even though I know its his nerves that makes him say those things but after a while is got super old and I don't take him seriously any more. He's in the "forever friend" pile.
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Who is saying something about paying?
The guy in the OP never wanted the girl to pay.
I never offered a guy to pay but I will tell my little sister to offer when she goes out to vet her prospects.
The guys in her age group are despicable.
She needs to get a feel right off..
Edited by jonesable - Feb 12 2013 at 9:55am
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:54am |
 lol ohhhhhh yeahhhhhh!!!!!!
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:54am |
lol @ Nita
anyways... I totally agree with #9 TOTALLY .... COMPLETELY .... ENTIRELY
you know what I also hate (this is before a date)... This one girl text me talking bout.. "what you doing?" Im like ..."hmm not sure yet.. Why whats up?" .. She's like "I don't know.." .. I'm like.."its cold outside.. I think I'ma watch the game" Shes like..." Wack"
Clearly she wanted me to plan something for us to do right... and you know whoever makes the plans... (for the record I took her out and paid before.. and didn't trip)
This has happened a few times with these younger girls who feel entitled from the start. The older Woman I dated was like "you sure you dont want me to pay..?" I had to turn her down TWICE.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:54am |
 jonesable wrote:
I see nothing wrong with offering.In fact it's probably a good move to see what kinda guy you're dealing with.
If he does accept then you know.
I don't mind guys having pet peeves.
I do
I don't offer but I def see the rationale. |
i've been saying this for almost 4 years
this is why you're my fav resident of gullah gullah island
jr.
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I find it weird that guys expect coochie.. I cant get mad over something I've never had...
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Bunnyahh wrote:
I'm not gonna get into the same vs similar, but I already said I agree with men paying for the FIRST DATE regardless of who asked who. As for the man in the op. He didnt state who asked who. But he did say not offering the GESTURE is a turnoff. Just like a woman may be turned off if he didn't hold the door or pull out a chair. Different strokes for diff folks |
That gesture seems like a game. Games while dating is a pet peeve of mine too. You have an expectation of him paying, so why even offer? If I even think I had to offer, I'd check the 'did not meet or exceed my expectations' box.
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Posted: Feb 12 2013 at 9:58am |
nitabug wrote:
Bunnyahh wrote:
I'm not gonna get into the same vs similar, but I already said I agree with men paying for the FIRST DATE regardless of who asked who. As for the man in the op. He didnt state who asked who. But he did say not offering the GESTURE is a turnoff. Just like a woman may be turned off if he didn't hold the door or pull out a chair. Different strokes for diff folks |
That gesture seems like a game. Games while dating is a pet peeve of mine too. You have an expectation of him paying, so why even offer?
If I even think I had to offer, I'd check the 'did not meet or exceed my expectations' box.
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It is tho.. My rule is if she doesn't pay by or right after the 3rd date I'm usually out..
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